How to tell him you want to get married

I am a 20 year old woman. A year ago I met my boyfriend, Jason. I am very much in love with him and want to spend my life with him. Our relationship is ture, honest and has a very firm foundation. It comes so natural for me to include him in my visions...

of the future. Jason is a successful journalist and I am a sciences student. Although I do not wish to get married until I am done school, I would love to get engaged soon so I can finally put a face to the prince charming I dreamt about when I was young. How should I go about telling him that I want to get engaged without making him feel that our relationship is lacking anything or that me being in school means "no engagement"?

How much longer until you are done school?

reply - dawn69

I'll be done my first degree in two years

hey..

I cant help but feel you answered your own question hun.. you said you have an honest, true, firm foundation.. I mean very rarely do people have a relationship like this. Im sure if you tell him in any way, He'll understand because such is the nature of your relationship..

If yah still a bit scpetical, then hint it towards him, however I dont really follow that, the best way I think would be to sit him down, and talk, talk about how great you feel when your with him, how the past year was Great! and then say that you been thinkin...... *** Engagement time!**

but remember, your 1 year into your realtionship, wouldnt it be better if you waited a little? x

Imiz x

yea - I agree... the worst thing he'll do is joke his way around the topic. It is just hard to be taken serious when I am so young... he is 7 years older than me... I guess what I am really asking is how to I let him know I am serious - regardless of age.

hun, you being there always for him, trusting him, being honest, you basically actin like a wife at the moment if yah dont mind me saying.. I think your actions speak soo much to the amount of commitment and seriousness your puttin into this realtionship.. As a guy, if a woman did that to me, id just know how much that girl would mean to me..

however if yah still want to tell him.. when your snuggled up to him, and your havin your little nice time together in each others arms, you can talk about how you feel, and how he makes you feel.. but remember, dont say soo much so that your actin clingy, or your actin the whole world will disappear if he no longer there.. x

sweetly, breifly, but very touching would be enough to let him know x

Imiz x

ps, he's 27, you come across as mature, you will be taken seriously hun I dont think he has the luxury of youth to mess you about x

Thank you very much for your advice. I feel like I do want to ask him what he sees for us. Whether marriage is something he actively wants vs "will do if necessary".

Have you considered proposing to him? There are no laws saying that a man must be the one to do it.

I am somewhat of an "ol' fashioned" person. I believe that a man should be the one to propose, just because it is tradiotional. I love the man and woman roles, and although there are many modern female traits I take on, I am opposed to asking for his hand in marriage. This is just my opinion and is not meant to be offensive. I believe it takes a lot of strength to ask that question to the man of your dreams, so for those of you who believe it is for you - good luck!!!

hi. I can suggest you something out of experience. Hope you find my suggestion helpfull. If you ask your guy to get married it will only worsen the situation. Let things go as they are and eventually he will ask you to get married. If your love is true that is. because when you think about engagement a lot of possessiveness comes in. Then jealousy. Then arguments. Then... Just take each day as it comes. And one day he will propose.

Dont get married right away. EVERYTHINGS DIFFERENT WHEN your MARRIED. trust me I know. Take some time and wait till you have a great job and a nice place. you cant tell him you want to get married. When in american culture have you seen the woman get on 1 knee and pull out a ring. If he wants marriage he'll let you know. The last thing you want is 2 force something on him that he's not ready for. He might back off and be hesistant to spend as much time with you knowing thats what you want so soon

Regards
-Fire/Desire

Is asking his opinion, without giving your own an option?

I think you should let him know thru a playful email.
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