How exactly do I have sex?

umm.. okay.
so I have the most amazing boyfriend and I love him with all my heart. and we've been talking about having sex. he really wants to, and so do I. and has tried to get my pants of afew times, but I make up excuses not to have sex every time....

the truth is, I've never had it before, and I know the basics, but I really have no clue how to have sex!
any advice for me?

One of my students once asked me, "Is it true if a boy has sex with you that means he likes you?"

At least she was eleven. Wait.

Your boyfriend sure really wants to have sex, but do you really? I highly doubt it, seeing you don't even know how exactly to have sex. Here's a helpful hint: if you're not sure how to do it, then don't do it. Your boyfriend will get a lot out of sex with you, but the same isn't true for you.

Whenever teens come here asking HOW TO have sex, they ARENT ready! Hes not respecting you, when he tries taking off your pants! Dont EVER let anyone pressure you into doing anything you dont want to do! Just because you "love" him, doesnt mean you have to have sex to prove it! Sex is NOT love! It doesnt matter that you have never had sex before. What matters is that if you were 100% ready, there would be NO second thoughts or hesitations! It would come naturally and spontenously, and without fear! You are DEFINITELY not ready!

SEX VS. LOVE
"If you love me, you'll have sex with me."

"I love you, I just want to show you how I feel."

"If we love each other, there's nothing wrong with it."

"Sex is natural."

One time or another, most girls hear some version of one of those lines. But guess what? None of them mean you have to have sex with someone - even if you are truly, madly, deeply in love with that person!
*Love and sex are NOT the same thing.

Sex is created for marriage--a long-lasting commitment between a couple. Outside of marriage, sex can have harsh consequences. Pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, guilt, insecurity, and shame can follow. A relationship based on lust can only last as long as the two are physically close and find each other sexually attractive.

...sex is created for marriage??? -___-

Hasn't sex been around waaay longer than marriage?

Well, I guess God screwed up then, huh? Its in the bible. At least it shouldnt be thrown around like the plague! Morals need to be instilled in these girls! And "NO" needs to be a part of their vocabulary!

SHUT THE EFF UP ANGEL. SHES A YOUNG LADY WITH RAGING HORMONES-LIKE MYSELF. DARLING! WATCH A P0RN0, OK, I KNOW THAT MAY NOT BE your THING, LOL BUT ATLEAST YOU'LL UNDERSTAND SEX A BIT MORE, OR LOOK UP KARMA SUTRA ON THE NET AND THERE'L BE PLENTY OF POSITIONS ON THERE FOR YOU TO STUDY. WHO KNOWS, MAYBE YOU AND your BOY CAN BOTH HAVE A LOOKY SEE, AND CHOOSE WHICH ONE YOUZ WOULD LIKE TO TRY OUT FIRST??? OH AND BABE, I SHOULD WARN YOU...SEX THE FIRST TIME CAN BE A LITTLE BIT PAINFUL, BUT DONT LET IT SCARE YOU OFF, because ONCE you ORG**M, THAT PAIN WILL BE WORTH IT.

TRUST ME ;D

I weep for humanity.

I beckon the Holy Asteroid...

angel fires advice for any of my questions makes me feel like im being bossed around any one else out there feel the same way?? any ways sex is natural youll know what to do in the moment, if you still feel like you need to know more check out some sex ed sites and videos on youtube.

Well, unlike any of you, I agree with angelfire. Sex might have been arounf WAY longer than marriage, but Angelfire is right. Sex has A LOT of consequences that some people just aren't ready for. Now, I don't know all of the people in the entire world, so I can't speak for everyone. Some people are ready. Like xxxcypherxxx might have raging hormones like yourself, but it doesn't mean that she has to act on them. I mean, if she just goes aorund handing out sex. Therefore handing out her body, then no boy or girl even, will respect her. And she will lose all respect that she has for herself. She shouldn't just go around having sex with just anybody. It should be a special thing between the person she falls in love with. I'm not saying that she has to be married before she has sex. I mean, it would be a smart move, but she shoul djust wait until she's is in true love before she has sex. And like you said iichiiuaua, she is just a young lady. Young is definitely the word. She can have sex now and have fun now. But in th elong run she will REALLY regret it. I hope you make the right decision xxxcypherxxx.

>>>She shouldn't just go around having sex with just anybody.

The key word here is "she." There is actually a biological reason for girls to be a little more selective than boys are. Do you see how tiny a sperm is compared to an egg? Do you see how many sperms there are surrounding one egg? Notice how the proponents of free sex are usually males? Whether it's God or evolution, the tide is not on your side.

I agree with duh21 except for one thing: don't fall for sex in the name of love. Many girls still find this surprising, but a lot of guys will tell you they love you just to have sex with you. When in doubt, ask your friends whether or not a guy is worth keeping.

hey xiigzag what if her friends hate the guy but hes a good guy who truly loves her ??? think about it.

saw3rules>If her friends hated her boyfriend, that must mean something. Gfs dont go around hating their friends bfs for no reason! How many times does a guy tell a girl he loves her, then months later breaks up? More times than none, boys THINK there in love. They have a very hard time distinquishing between sex, and love! a lot of times their brains are in their pants.

not nessisarily what if the girl that say she should break up with him because she hates him because hes her ex. or theres a rumor going around.

Going back out with an ex, usually isnt always the best move. If her friends saw the relationship she had with that boyfriend, and it ended for whatever reason, of course they arent going to want her to go back with him again! Why go down that same bumpy road?

I have also found out that rumors tend to be true. When a rumor goes around about a certain guy being a player, I have found that to be true. When a rumor is going around about a girl thats easy, I have also found that to be true. Especially when more then just a few people are saying it.

I probably should leave this thread alone, but...

If you're dating a friend of your ex, you're not much of a guy.

And a girl who chooses a boy over her friend doesn't deserve any better.

I'm out of here now.

I agree xiigzag, but we have gotten totally off the subject here.

saw3rules is the one that changed it. This thread has NOTHING to do with her ex. Its her boyfriend! All she wanted to know was HOW TO HAVE SEX!. So saw3rules>stay on the subject at hand!

its pretyy uch comes to you like if your really sure abotu it jsut let it happen if you want tell him you have never done it before and am kinda nervas that you will do somethign wrong and posibly if your ok with it for him to take control and well yah make sure it all goes well. (at first it will hurt) but it depends on the poeple but yah you might not be ready because if you were you would jsut go right ahead and not make any excusee btu I think that you shoudl be honest wiht him and talk to him botu ti good luck (if you want to ask me more jsut write to me)

I think I can and if you want sex then have it its not hard and if you dont how go on the internet or ask a relitive or a best friend

GOOD LUCK!!

I think I can and if you want sex then have it its not hard and if you dont how go on the internet or ask a relitive or a best friend

GOOD LUCK!!

I think I can and if you want sex then have it its not hard and if you dont how go on the internet or ask a relitive or a best friend

GOOD LUCK!!

I think I can and if you want sex then have it its not hard and if you dont how go on the internet or ask a relitive or a best friend

GOOD LUCK!!