What if I'm not comfortable going further with my boyfriend?

ok...soo...im with this guy..and im 15..and hes turnign 18 and hes not that experienced..which is weird cuzz hes reallly cutte ..and weve been together since may but he wants sex and s*it but im like scared to get into his pants..he got blue balls the...

other day when I gave him a hickey..and told me next timme hopefully more than that and that wont happen..and im so confused and scared and I dont know what to do

If your not ready, your just not ready. Think about the consequenses and reprocussions to what happens when you have sex. Especially with someone who is of legal age. If he respects you, he wont pressure you. 3 months is not really long enough to make that decision. Blue balls does not constitute having sex. He can relieve the pressure himself. He knows how. Just think about things thoroughly first. If you do infact engage ion anything other than kissing, protect yourself, and make sure you are both on the same pag. Trust is a big issue.

Just tell him your not ready yet. He will hopefully understand. I know it may be hard or embarrassing to tell him, but don't do it if you're not ready. The most important thing is that he's not pressuring you. Make up an excuse ify ou need, but if you don't want to DONT. That will just make it okay for him to pressure you all the time if you dont.

If he is asking you for sex already, I dont think he is a decent guy. You are still a minor...do NOT let him pressure you or sweet talk you into doing something you are clearly not ready for. I wouldnt give this guy my virginity, nor anything else for that matter.

If your boyfriend is in a hurry for sex, that is a sign that he won't treat you respectfully afterward. You need to inform him sweetly, but firmly, that you will not be rushed into doing anything so major. Here are some tips on how you could do that:

Take a deep breath and say these words: "No, I don't want to have sex".

If the question comes up while you are kissing or fooling around, stop what you are doing. Back off, take a breath, even stand up if necessary. Then say, "I do not want to have sex now."

Don't let him talk you out of what you know is right. If you make out with someone, no matter how far you go, it does NOT mean that you have to go all the way.

Don't be embarrassed or think you will sound immature by saying no to sex. Choosing not to have sex is VERY mature. It would be immature to be pressured into something you don’t want!

Tell him how you feel about him, and be honest. If you don't feel close enough to him yet, say so. If you really love him but aren't interested in sex right now, say so.

Tell him the depth of your commitment to keeping yourself innocent for now. If you don't plan on having sex until you are married, say so. If you simply know you are not ready right this moment, then say so.

If he tells you, "If you loved me you'd do it”, come back at him with, "If you loved me you'd wait". Sex is NOT the only way to show your love for another person. If he loves you, he will wait forever if needed.

Keep in mind that if it was meant to be with you and this guy, it was meant to be right for BOTH of you, not only for one of you.

Remember, having sex is a big deal and not having sex is perfectly normal. Despite what you may have heard, virgins are a majority in most high schools, not a minority.