Why did he lose control suddenly?

alrighty, so today I spoke to my boyfriend about whats been bothering me, and its nothing big or anything, its about school.. I failed my exam and it was bothering me and he got really mad at me for that.. what should I do, I dont understand what I did.....

he just started screaming and when I asked him tell me whats wrong he said I wouldnt understand and hung up, its not lie him we've been together for about 8 months and never has he screamed or lost control like that, I just want to resolve the problem, I love him.. help me.. please.

obviously something is going on at his home -- maybe a death in the family, maybe he lost a good friend or something like that. just try to talk with him about it, and maybe you can get him to understand.

good luck ~ dracoalba

It sounds like he is stressed or perhaps what you were upset about hit close to home on something that had him really stressed too. Is he getting ready to take a big test? Maybe he is worried that he will fail too.

I think you should mention that you were not expecting that particular reaction. Don't make him feel too bad - because that may only make the problem worse. Just ask him to perhaps talk about his problems with you rather than take them out on you when you don't know what is going on.

Best of luck!

Its probably nothing you did, and even if it was, he had no right losing it. I think you are starting to see the real him. Hes done it once, it'll most likely happen again. Sometimes it takes months to see someone for who they truly are.