Boyfriend not bonding with dad

in 14 days, it will be me and my boyfriends one year anniversary. he comes over like 2 or 3 and sometimes 4 days a week. my brother absolutely loves him and my mom can somewhat talk to him but when he comes over, my dad just LEAVES or sits on the...

computer. he just says hey, and that's it. I feel like they have a lot in common, like they both have to have hot sauce or bar b q sauce on EVERYTHING and my dad used to be really into video games and my boyfriend is like a TOTAL geek and just plays them 24 7 and they both LOVE the pc and there games and my boyfriend loves to fight and boxing and my dad watched wrestling whenever there is a tournament! I always ask if chase can come over while there is a match on and my dad just says something like 'no its my time' or something. I really feel like im going to spend the rest of my life with him and when we get married, im going to want my parents to visit for dinner and its going to be so awkward eating dinner. even now, me and him just sit in the front room because its so awkward in front of my dad. I don't know what to do so hey can BOND! help??!?

I had this problem with my ex and my dad. One day when he was over I left him alone with my dad for a little while so he could just talk and carry a conversation about things they both liked such as hunting. Once they were able to have a conversation my dad would always talk to him after that. If your boyfriend wants to have a relationship with your dad have him talk to your dad and have a serious conversation and tell your dad that he doesn't plan on hurting you and follows all of the rules and respects you dad. I know how you feel. If he talks to your dad it help a lot.

I think you need to talk to your dad about this. Tell him that him and your boyfriend have a lot in common and that you think they could be really close. Also if you have some kind of gaming system plug it up and start playing it with your boyfriend around your dad. Fake like you have to go to the bathroom and ask your dad to play in your place wile your gone. This will give them a chance to bond while doing something they love. Also if your brother is willing ask him to put in a good word for your boyfriend. Ask him to say something like "gee dad you put bbq sause on everything. You no chase does that to. Now that I think about it you to have a lot in common" lol I no that was cheesy. Don't use that but come up for something for him to say. Lastly I think its really sweet that you care this much about your boyfriend to make sure he fitts in with your family. You must really love him and I hope you to are together for as long as you like. I hope that I've helped you some and good luck. GOD BLESS!

I think you need to ask your dad why, and actually listen to him, then have a real talk as to why you like your botfriend so much. Just make sure you don;t get angry or frustrated, as much as you want your dad to see it your way, he wan't you to see it his way. Understand that you are his daughter, his princess, his little girl, NO MAN will every be good enough for you in your father's eyes, at least not for the first couple of years you date. Be glad that your dad loves you enough to be judgemental about who you date.

I've had the same thing happen to me before!! and I noe how irratating and stressful it can be!! but like you said they have a bunch of things in common... so why not have you dad watch wrestling one day or something, and have your boyfriend come without your dad knowing and just catch him by surprise with him starting a convo, and say something like, "cool I love wrestling too" or " who's winning?"... but if you think that's gunna make your dad pissed... then I think it's best if you inagotiate with him. tell... him that you love your boyfriend, and that he treats you well and he respects you, and that you want your dad to know that he's a good guy, and beg him to let his guard down and be more welcoming to your boyfriend, tell him that you think that your boyfriend shares a lot of the same interests with him... but most of all... remind your dad that you LOVE HIM (your dad)... cause that's what he may be worried about (that your boyfriend may make you forget about him) - just reasure him... that you're still his!! but yeaa... both my boyfriend and my daddy LOVE video games... they're both obbessed with psp!!... so once they both realized that... that's what broke the tension =) ahaha... now they borrow each others games!! lol

well I hope things work out for yea... hope I helped! =)

Well, maybe you can help your boyfriend to do something to impress your dad. You also can tell your dad how great your boyfriend is. Perhaps you can organise a trip.. During the trip, leave your boyfriend and your dad together. Ask your boyfriend to talk to your dad first.

Good luck ! ^^

I think only you can do one thing which can make a good relation between your boyfriend and your dad...listen try to gossip with your dad and tell him that a lot of thing is common between him and your boyfriend..tell him that your boyfriend relly likes your dad...or you can say that your boy friend really like your fathers personality..and tell your by friend to impress your dad..leave them alone..let them talk...like your boyfriend come to your house..u asked your father that dad I want to make coffe or tea for u...or something special which thng your dad love to eat..den leave them alone to talk..hope it helped..if you need anythng to know funmail me.

Theres nothing that you can do in this situation. Only your boyfriend can help make this thing work. Your boyfriend definetly needs to start approaching your father more and when I say this I mean literally cornering him and start talking about random topics if necessary. This will help them open up to each other as well as creating a better comfort level. Also if theres a wrestling or boxing match on, try inviting your boyfriend over without telling your father, because once he's there your father can't say anything and they'll be forced to talk to one another. If you have anymore questions you noe where to find me.

I would talk to your dad about this and see how that goes , if that doesnt work tell your mum and bring your boyfriednd over so you , your boyfriend , mum and brother can talk about how your dad can get along with your boyfriend!

I think your dad is just at a weird stage - your his teenage girl. Just give him more time, as long as hes not being mean to your boyfriend everything is okay. Its just hard for a lot of dads to watch his "little" girl have a male in her life besides him. He also may be afraid to get close with him then you two break up and him having to comfort you. Your really young your dad probley still thinks "it wont last" because most young relationships don't, so only time will prove to him how well your relationship will be in the future.

all I know is that its your relationship not your dads

well my dad is the same with my boyfriend...they talk for like 3 seconds and its like hey how are you and did you see that game...thats bout it ...my boyfriend also has to have hotsauce on everything lol but back to the point me and my boyfriend have been together 7 months and plan to be together for a very long time and my dad wont even meet his parents hes so stubborn its ridiculous so I think the smart thing to do would be asking dad if he can just try and get some common ground with your boyfriend and same goes with your boyfriend have him talk to your dad as much as he can even asking questions related to his interests and maybe go somewhere that they both would enjoy thats what im going to try and I'll let you know how it goes ...its so complicated im so close with his mom and his dad im the one always over there tho my dad never wants anyone at our house hes weird but good luck I hope I was some help -dani ...keep in touch

I think that you should let your dad and your boyfriend know how you feel. I kind of had this problem with my boyfriend's mom. She's just not someone I can create a relationship with and she's hard to talk to. Anyway, I know how you feel and you need to let your boyfriend know as well as your dad. That way they can both work on what needs to be a stronger relationship between the two of them Hope this helps!

Talk to your dad and tell him you love him but your growing up and would like it if he made an effort with your boyfriend - although dads will always be protective over their kids - esp. girls

Tell your dad that he is a nice guy and everything. Tell your dad also, that your growing up and you can't have him decide his disions for you. Your a big girl :].
Try to get your boyfriend to talk to your dad too.

Ask your dad to have a three way with your boyfriend.

My Ex's Dad didnt like me much at first cause he caught us kising in the living room at her house. I was reased to always Yes Sir, No Sir, Thank you Please so gitting him on myside was pretty easy. I always stood to great him and never let him walk away without Shaking his hand. I would also stand whensomeone left the diner table or when someone stepped out. Just your general 50's manners sorta thing. I never let his "generosity" go unoticed. For instance when ever I would leave I would thank him for having me and ask if their was anything I could do before I left. It sounds a little messed up to say it this way but really butter him up and tell him exactly what he wants to hear. Eventually you wont even need to an effort. Good Luck.