My girlfriend is bisexual and has feelings for another girl?

long story...but I need help. I would appreciate it if you could read this all, if its not too much to ask. thanks...

So my girlfriend is bisexual...we often have little fights about it. not because im opposed to it, its fine with me if thats how she...

is. but what im not ok with is if she has a relationship with somebody else while she's with me, I dont care what gender they are, my feelings are still in her hands. we have been together for about 2 and a half years now, and I love her with all my heart. and she loves me. I hope.
Today she told me she had feelings for somebody else...and its a girl. she never gave me a chance to reply, because after that she said she had to go, and never said a thing after that.
so now im sitting here, more hurt than I have ever been in my whole life.
shes spent the past 2 years telling me she loves me, im her only love. that shes all mine, and im all hers. im the only one she'll love.
and now shes telling me she likes this girl?
how in the world can she possibly love me the same way she did before?
I would never, ever, ever, in a million years, even think about having feelings for somebody else.
I can honestly say that in the 2 plus years we've neem together, I've never thought about being with another person, not once.
how am I supposed to feel?
im sitting here, trying to deal with it, nobody to talk to, and its just there. theres nothing I can do. I cant change the way she feels.
and im scared that if I tell her about how I feel that shes just going to feel bad and say she wont like the girl anymore, which is a lie, she has feelings for her, she cant change that.

just how can she do this to me? tell me she loves me, tell me im her only one. and she likes somebody else? im so hurt, I feel so unloved, so unwanted. so unneeded. and really alone.
I dont know what im asking from you, just if you can help in any way. please, I need it.

and so you know, our fights about her being bisexual are usually about cheating. she thinks it wouldnt be cheating, since its with another girl. I do think it is, because my feelings are still involved. I love her. to know she has feelings for somebody else hurts me really bad.

I dont want to end this, I love her too much. but everytime I look at her im jsut going to feel this hurt inside. knowing that she doesnt feel the same way I do...nothing can be the same anymore, and that scares me.

help?

I dont know what to tell you.
but you seem desperate for something,
so all I can tell you is..
after two years,
I dont see how she cant love you,
if she didnt, I dont think she'd have stayed with you that long.
I think you should talk to her, and tell her what you just said,
and asked her what she wants to do.
good luck.

I know, thats what I think.

but how can she honestly tell me she loves me the same, if she likes somebody else?
if I ever liked somebody else, I would feel so bad. I would feel like im betraying her love and trust.

I dont know what to do. I cant talk to her, its too late, shes sleeping. and theres no way I can sleep. I wont get to talk to her for another 11 hours.

I wish there was something I could do, some way of seeing if she feels the same, without lies. its so hard.
I do so much to make her happy, what is so wrong with me that she can just like somebody else?

I dont know,
I know- cliche, but it's not you- it's her.

I'd call and wake her up.
tell her you cant sleep unless you know what she wants.

yeah. but I just love her so much, it seems so unreal to think she actually has feelings for someone else.

yeah, I would, but she's sleeping over her friends house; the friend she has the crush on. and im really scared she's going to end up doing something with the girl.

if she cheats on me, I dont know what I'd do...

I know it'd be extremely hard,
but I wouldnt just let her cheat on you.
that's all the more reason to call.

it is. im so terrified. I wish I didnt feel so helpless. its so hard because she said she'd always be there, and shes the only one I trust. theres nobody else to talk to. its so late, theres nobody to call, nobody to talk to. I feel helpless.

I know, its just that she texted me saying she was going to bed. we were talking for a while, and she wouldnt tell me what was going on. then she pretty much just said, "I got to go, I'll talk to you tomorrow. but fine, if you want to know I like my friend. there. I'll call you tomorrow. bye."

so she doesnt want to talk. I just cant believe shes just leaving me hanging like this. I have so much to ask, and I cant till tomorrow. its hard.
it feels like its going to be a rough night.

but thank you for answering this. it means a lot.

im sorry I couldn't help you more.
I know what it feels like, when someone's your best friend, and life-
and totally let's you down.
im sorry, I really am.
and good luck.
I really hope it all works out for you.

its ok, you talked to me...thats more then I can say for other people.

yeah its really hard. but I guess im going to have to find some way to deal till tomorrow.

its alright, you tried. no one else has. it means a lot.

thank you very much

your welcome..

thats a really long story... but so interesting. I have never heard of a realationship like yours before.(I luv romantic stuff and stuff like that)

Have you tried to talk to her about it?

I cant. shes at her friends house, and its 4:30 in the morning, so I cant call. like I said before, she just told me, then said she had to go. I couldnt talk to her. now I cant sleep, and I need to talk to her.

its hard

If she doesn't want to change, so won't - you must move on to have a chance at happiness and rest...I wish you the best !!

 
in my opinion, you might be prematurely overreacting to the situation. It is not unusual for humans to develop feelings for other people than just the one that they are involved with. The difference, out of respect and loyalty, is that they don't become sexually involved with them.

You just need to talk with her and come to the agreement that, for both of you, feelings for others may naturally occur but that, no matter what the persons sex, sexual relations with them are taboo.

Society tends to make us think that all feelings and relationships with another person must have sexual consequences. That isn't true.

I assume she is close to your same age. You both are young and maybe haven't experienced "feelings" for other than each other and therefore don't realize that they can lead to long-term non-sexual relationships.

You and she need to sit down and really discuss things. Like what your goals are, individually and together. You have to jointly set ground rules that apply to both of you.

Communication is the Key!

Omgz...I feel sooo bad 4 u. I know how it feelz 2 b hurt like that wher you cant change da personz feelingz, so therz nuthing you can do. But if thiz girl liks sumbody else...please don't hate your self 4 that. She iz not worth your time if she keep hurting u & you know she luvz someone else. also please don't give up hope...one day im sure you will find somebody who iz perfect 4 u!!! Saty strong 7 move on. itz probably for the best! Good luck...and if my advice doesnt help...im sorry!