Is it wrong to be engaged at 13?

Do you think it is wrong for someone at the age of 13 or 14 to be engaged if you know that your in love and want to be together forever and spend the rest of your lives with each other??

From experience yes, at 13 years of age, being engaged is wrong. Not to mention.. hurtful. At 13 you are still a child, you still have a lot to go through. Although you feel this person is the one, he won't be. Everyone goes through heartbreaks no matter how big or small, but EVERYONE does. To be engaged is a lifetime commitment that the male has given and to accept is the commitment from you. To propose should be only a once in a lifetime thing for him and while you are young, it is going to be more than once. You will both grow up and your views will change on things, it may never be the same. You will go through school and work and new people. Meeting new people often change what you think of others. Influences...

You may fall in love with someone else or get bored of the one you are with now. You can never promise someone you will be together forever no matter how much you feel for them because only a special few will remain together forever from childhood. And it is very rare.

As I said you are young for a lot of things:
*Marriage
*Sex
*Commitment
*Finance

However you can love as much as you want, you can love whoever you want... no one can stop you from that, but ENGAGEMENT is a big thing. It does not only mean you want to marry this person, it means that there is a whole lotta trust and love in the relationship, that you are determined.

So I would advise you to wait. This is just a teenage romance... you are still a child.

Is it wrong. I would say NO, if you are not making serious plans till far in advanced. I think people would not take you seriously, if you told them you had a fiancee at the age of 13. I think the better thing to do would be to have a promise ring, or something along those lines, and wait till you are old enough. An engagement at 13 seems a little extreme.

You still have a lot to go through, and growing up to do. Things could change, or you could stay with this boy forever. Thats not my call.

You can love someone and want to be with them forever. But you are only 13, dont rush it, or pass up your teen years.

Well, first you are too young to get married. And you may love each other but you still don't know how you are going to feel in a couple of years. And I don't think that your parents would let you get married. And you are underage, so you need their permission. And also you are still a kid. You aren't grown up enough to make that kind of decision. Take your time and grow up. And then in about ten years or at least when you're 18, then if you stil love each other, then think about getting married. I really hope you make the right choice. Just tell him, that you love him but you aren't ready for marrage yet. You're only 13 years old. You're WAY too young. Good luck.

Dear britz_x,
Yes, 13 is too young to be engaged. What does engagement mean: An engagement is an agreement or promise to marry, and also refers to the time between proposal and marriage.
It is very difficult to gage how many b/f a girl has before marriage but the stats show at least 10. The reason it is difficult is because young people casual date and sometimes they over lap. One should never promise marriage until they have dated and have their future careers establish. If one were to marry young without dating and without a career the stats show this marriage will be near then 80% failure rate. Today we sit with a 50% failure rate for the average couple. Being 13 and engaged is not the average couple. So do not set yourself up for failure...this is a time for casual or friendship dating.
Sue...good luck

I certainly don't think its wrong, but promise rings would be more appropriate. Honestly, My first love and I still talk, he moved to AZ and we started dating at 13. I'm 20 now and we're still good friends, and everytime we talk he says 'So when are we getting married' and he truly believes we are destined to be together, I can't say I agree, but at the same time I will always love him. He's a nice guy. Maybe someday . But hold onto whatever you hold dear no matter what ANYONE else says.

I really love this guy and I know I do, and hes moving here in about ummm a year or 2 and ill be 15 or 16 by then and ill be abled to get married because im gettin permision from my parents, so this isnt wrong, right??? and hes going to get a job and a house and all that..and yeah..so is it STILL wrong??

Dear britz_x,
I know you are wanting all of us to agree with you but I think most of us will still think it is wrong. So many things change at your age and getting married without experiencing more of life is likely going to cause a lot of heart ache for you. You need a solid career, people experience, dating and socializing. For go the engagement for now and start to socialize. If in 2 years you still feel the same then address the engagement again but you are setting yourself up for disappointment by rushing into this. We want the best for you and this really isn't the best right now.
Sue...good luck

Not wrong, stupid.

no your NOT im 14 and me and b/f have been tlkin bout it and he has asked me if I would marrie him countless numbers of times and I said yes to all

ya I think it is
cause you are still young maybe like wha the other girl said and get promise rings but your wayyy to young and its illegal to get married at the age unless you have your parents concent

okay, yes, you ARE to young. any girl who tells you that you AREN'T is most likely your age! you're not mature enough for it, listen to the girls who know.

umm... ummm... lol that is the only thing that I can say you are WAY to young to be getting married let alone dating wow umm your just not mature enough

mhm. well my brother & his wife now have been off & on since 4th grade. he is almost 30 now. im sure you can get a promise ring & last hunn (:

trust me. im 13. & I thought bout it. like I was bout to. but I changed my
mind. right now im on the run for looking for my boyfriend a promise ring (:

your a WAYYY too youg for that...enjoy youth till it lasts girl...

Well Lets See... Your 13 years old in the 7th or 8th grade wanting to get engaged..
I'm 13 years old and me and my boyfriend have been together a year now and we've both done some preety stupid stuff... Hun, your still a child.. You haven't even started driving yet... Think About It.. Marriage is a big responsibility... Theres a lot of things out there in the BIG world to do and if your tied down to ONE person, you won't get that experience.. Plus, Your not an adult yet, so your feelings and emotions will change and you may not feel the same about him any more.. You Know life isn't like Boy Meets World.. You don't always find the person your going to marry in Middle School.. But it is YOUR decision. Not anyone elses.. Do what you want to do.. Its YOUR Life...

well I was engaged at 13 but we didnt end up togther 4eva like we said I cheated on him twice so we aint togther no more