Disconnected & distant

How do I relate to others when I feel so removed from humanity. I have "closeness" issues in interacting with other human beings. Just being able to truly feel comfortable with others is a challenge for me. I've strived and have come a long way in...

this area but I still feel that I am "missing the mark" so-to-speak. I've progressed so much in this area that some people have come to the erroneous conclusion that I have not social issues when it comes to interpersonal connections with others but nothing could be further from the truth.

Not Quite Hopeless,

Michael

Heres some steps be may be interested in taking:

Step1
Be aware of your own interaction with other people. Identify which behaviors and situations make you uncomfortable. Think about how you can modify your own behavior to turn it into a positive experience.

Step2
Ask others for honest feedback regarding you interaction with others. This can be very helpful, though you must accept the negative feedback that comes along with the positive and make changes accordingly. You must also be comfortable apologizing to others if you acted in the wrong.

Step3
Use positive body language when relating to other people. Use direct eye contact, face the person you're speaking to and avoid fidgeting or being inattentive. Body language is at times more important than the actual words being spoken.

Step4
Learn to truly listen to what the other person is saying. You may need to fight the urge to quickly rebuttal or respond after a thought comes to mind, but, out of respect, it is your duty to listen to his complete statement and then respond.

Step5
Attempt to change one or two behaviors at a time. Trying to overhaul your whole personality at once will be exhausting, overwhelming, and likely impossible.

Step6
Maximize your positive personality traits. Ask friends and family about your positive attributes, and let them shine while interacting with others. Good communication and great listening skills your most important tools.

Step7
Be approachable. Body language and facial expression are cues others take when deciding if someone is approachable. If you are interested in others coming your way, be open, happy and inviting.