Could i be a lesbian?

I'm 13.I'm a girl.I just turned 13 in the middle of September.I live in the east.I'm in the 8th grade.The thought of girls licking me turns me on.I probably won't try it because I'm afraid that I might like it and I think that I might like it.But that's...

not the only thing holding me back.The thought of a girl turns me on.Do I like it because it's so taboo?I was thinking about girls and it turned me on.Does that mean that I am a lesbian or are those just horomones?I don't want to be a bisexual either!I just want to be straight!This morning I woke up and thought about how it would feel to have sex with a girl and how maybe I should try it but I am afraid that I will like it or that I will regret doing it.Does this make me a lesbian or something?Now,when I think about having sex with a guy,I get really turned on.I want to marry a guy.I want to have a relationship with a guy.But now something is telling me that I wish a girl would come onto me.Does also mean that I am a lesbian?I feel like I want to be with a girl but I know that I want to be with a guy.But sometimes,I want a girl to lick me.I've always wanted to be with a guy,all of my life.It's just now,I am getting all of these strange feelings.Will these feelings go away?Also,I was thinking about how hot it would be to have sex with a girl and how it would feel.I keep rethinking myself also.Like one minute,I'll ask myself do I want to be want a man or a woman and I am really confused on what I want but I would most likely feel happier with a guy.I love guys.I wasn't actually thinking about having a actual relationship with a girl until now since someone mentioned it.Now I am wondering if I want a girlfriend now,does it sound like it?I don't care if there is nothing wrong with being unstraight,I just simply want to be straight!I don't want to be bi sexual either!I want to kill myself because I can't stop worrying about this and if I'm unstraight then I might as well go ahead and kill myself!I can't say that I want to be in a relatioship with a girl because I just don't find it that interesting and I really just don't think it's for me.If I am sexually and physically attracted girls,then what does that mean?I'm losing sight of what I want and don't want.
I like girls' bodies but I don't really want a relationship with them but I feel that I want to have sex with them because it looks very inviting and fun but I won't.
I was just masturbating a few days ago and I thought to myself "I want to be a lesbian because it was be so hot to have sex with a girl."I was really horny.Does it sound like I really meant that?
This is why I won't experiment with a girl.

It against my beliefs and my religious beliefs.
I don't want to regret it,and trust me,I would considering I'm already regretting the thoughts.
It would ruin my chances of getting married to a man.
I want my first time to be with a boy.
I'm afraid that I might like it.
I don't think it's a lifestyle that I would want to lead.
If it is going to make me a lesbian by experimenting then I definitely don't want to.
I believe that man is for woman as woman is for man.
I don't want to deal with the shame.
I know that guys are right for me.

Is this how you know that you do not want to experiment with a girl?

This is how I know that I don't want to be a lesbian though.-
I don't want to live with the shame.
I want to marry a guy.
I don't want to live the lifestyle.
I most likely wouldn't be happy with a girl.
It's against my beliefs.
I haven't dated a girl and if I wanted to,I would have already done it.
I don't think that I would have sex with a girl.
The only time that I think about sex with girls is when someone mentions it or when I masturabte or when I am worried about it.
I want to be straight because I know that I would be a lot happier that way.
I love guys.
Is that how you know?

This is how I know that I want to be with a guy.-
I'm happy with guys.
If I didn't want to be with guys,I wouldn't be so worried about all of this.
I imagine myself with them daily.
I love guys.
I want to marry a guy.
When I grow up,I want to have sex with a guy.
I want to date guys.
I want to be with guys.
It's not an ambomination of GOD to be with a guy when you are a girl.
I like the firmness and strongness and aggressiveness that guys have.
Is that how you know?

I asked myself if I had the chance to marry a guy and a girl,would I do it?I said maybe.I want to marry a guy though.Just because I said that I probably woud mary both,does that mean that I am bi sexual?Am I thinking too much?I don't know if I would have sex with a girl.One part says yes and another says no!I might kiss a girl but I doubt anything else.Okay,to be honest,I probably wouldn't even kiss a girl,I don't know why,but I jsut probably wouldn't.!But is wanting to have sex with a girl just curiousity or does it mean that I am a lesbian?Nevertheless,I was thinking what if I really want to have sex with a girl.That makes me a lesbian,doesn't it?Does it sound like I want to have sex with a girl?
Now something is questioning me of if I would try something with a girl even though I keep telling myself that I wouldn't.All this time up until today,I kept saying that I wouldn't try anything with a girl but now something is telling me that I would.But the thing is that no matter how much that voice speaks,I will not act on it because I know that I will regret it.But I think the reall reason of why I am feeling all of this is because I questioned myself.I havent't ever really thought about this stuff this bad before until I asked myself was I straight.The more I question myself,the more I start to come up with things such as "I might like her".It's because it's on my mind at the time.Is that why?
I'm so worried right now because I don't know if I am sexually attracted to women.I don't think that I'm emotionally attracted to them.Being sexually attracted to women means that you want to have sex with them and if I want to have sex with one then that makes me a lesbian even though it's experimenting,doesn't it?
I've been thinking about sex since I was 6.Back then it wasn't real sex but it was some type of sex.I had a crush on my gym teacher and I used to think about him kissing me and him doing bad things to me sexually.I started really thinking about real sex at 10 or 11.So now I am married to a guy named Eric and I have three kids,Alder,Jacqui,and Lisette.This is all in my imagination by the way.But I think about bondage sex,hardcore sex,gentle sex,regular sex,and kinky sex.I'm still a virgin and I plan to be a virgin until I get married.I'm sticking to that definitely.So the other day,I was thinking about a guy licking me and since I have been depressed about my sexuality,the thought of a girl licking me popped up in my head.Is it because I've been thinking about this so much for the last couple of days or so?I like lesbian porn more than I do any other kind.Also when I masturbate,I think about girls licking me or licking each other.It makes me orgasm faster.I don't want to be a lesbian.I haven't dated or had sex with a girl.I think girls are pretty.I love boys.I have only dated boys.I'm turned on by lesbian porn.I want to be straight.I've always wanted to marry a man when I grow up.I'm not even supporting gay or lesbian beliefs or anything.I haven't had sex and don't plan to until I am married (to a man of course.)All I think about is sex though.I only think about sex with girls when I masturbate or when someone mentions it or because I am worried about it.But if I want a girl to lick me and have sex with me then that means that I am a lesbian,right?
I can't get married!No man will want to marry me if I'm unstraight.I don't want to be a lesbian.I want to be with guys but a big part of me tells me that I want to have sex with a girl but I won't do it.At least I don't think I would.I'm happy with guys.Does it sound like I am straight or bi-cuirous?
I know that I wouldn't do it because-
It is wrong or at least to me.
I would not want to carry the shame of it.
It would ruin my chances with a guy when I grow up.
I wouldn't want to be considered bi or a lesbian for doing it.
I would regret it because I am already regretting just the thought of it.
Is that how you know that you wouldn't do it?
I don't know if I want to have sex with a girl but I think I want to experiment.I'm curious to what it would be like.Something tells me that I want to be intamant with a girl but I think I want to experiment because we have good looking bodies but I probably would not try anything with a girl.People are telling me to do what makes me happy,being with guys makes me happy.So does it sound like I am a lesbian?If I liked girls then I would be dating them.If I find out that I'm unstraight,I might kill myself.Being a lesbian or bisexual is an abomination in the sight of GOD.I know that I am attracted to guys.But sometimes my mind tells me that I want to have sex with a girl.I don't want to be bi or a lesbian.I want to be straight.I really don't think that I am going to date or have sex with a girl even though my mind sometimes tells me that I want to.

I want to be straight.
Guys make me very happy.
I haven't dated a girl.
I love guys.
I just have thoughts about it.
My mind sometimes tells me that I want to have sex with a girl but I wouldn't do it,at least I don't think that I would.
To me it's wrong and I don't want to be a lesbian or bisexual.
I'm worried about this.
I've always imagined myself with guys and marrying guys.
I don't want to live with the shame of being a lesbian or being bi.

I went to the doctor once and the doctor touched me in a "place" and I was eleven or getting ready to turn twelve.When she touched me,I kind of liked it but I felt extremely uncomfortable.Even after she did it,I felt uncomfortable,it was a woman doctor.Am I a lesbian?Also when my mom tickles me or touches me on my shoulders,I get sexually excited.I'm very ticklesh.I want to be straight.Am I a lesbian?
My biggest fear is that when I meet a guy and want to get married,he might not want to marry me if he thinks that I'm not straight.I don't want to know what is wrong and what is right because I still believe what I believe.All that I want to know is what is it doing all of this?Am I straight?Is it my horomones telling that I want to be with girls?I don't know if I want to have sex with girl but does it sound like I do?
Being with a guy makes me very happy.I can't get married in the future now.No man would like me!When I masturbate,I get more turned on by thinking girls are licking me than I do guys.So what does this mean?
One thing tells me that I want to be with a girl and another part of me says that I don't.I've always wanted to be with a guy and no one is going to tell me that I don't. I wouldn't have sex with a girl for a lot of reasons.I don't know if I want to have sex with a girl.I think that I want to experiment when I get older but I most likely won't.
There's a lot of things holding me back including myself.I don't know what is telling me that I want to experiment but I am trying to ignore that voice.I know that I most likely wouldn't but I'm just curious as to what it would be like and would I like it.Does that mean that I am a lesbian?I can't marry a guy now!He won't want to marry me if he thinks that I am a lesbian or bisexual?Am I just somewhat curious?

There's this girl at my school.She's really pretty and I admire her body.Then I thought "Maybe I'm attracted to her."I tried to visualize what it would be like to be with her and she is pretty.I don't know if I would go out with her because that's a little too far for me and I'm pretty sure that I wouldn't.80% that I wouldn't.I have always imagined myself with a guy.Did I just admire her and her body?Or am I lesbian for thinking this about her and feeling this way about her?Am I sexually or physically attracted to her?I did want to touch her breasts or one of her other body parts but I don't think that I would do it.

Is all of this just my horomones acting up?Is this why I can't make up my mind about anything?

I always think about guys.When I masturbate,I get into the heat of the moment and I just think about anything that would turn me on.But when my mom was touching my shoulder,I was hoping that she would go farther.I'm really ticklesh on my shoulder.I would probably be unhappy with a girl.I always think about guys daily,everyday,I think about them daily.Am I lesbian for wanting my mom to go further for that moment?
My mind tells me one thing and my heart tells me different things.I want to kill myself over this because I just want to be straight.I think that girls are attractive.I want to be with a guy for the rest of my life.What am I?I can't get a husband or boyfriend now!
Something tells me that I want to try it one day.I taught that it is wrong but if that makes me a lesbian then I don't want to try it.Nevertheless,I always pictured myself with guys.I'm reluctant with doing it when I get older because I don't want to be a lesbian.But even if it doesn't make me a lesbian,it's still the point of the thing.But the fact that I might want to try it later on in life scares me.I'm NOT sure if I am going to try it anywhere in the future but I'm 75% sure that I wouldn't because that's not who I am and at least I don't think that I would try it.Would trying it make me a lesbian or something?
I want to try something with a girl or at least something tells me that I do but there's some things holding me back.It's against my beliefs and if it makes me a lesbian of bisexual if I do it then I definitely don't want to do it.I want to be with guys but I wonder what it would be like with girls.I know that no matter how much these urges come to me to try it,that I won't give in considering I do know myself a little to know that I most likely wouldn't be happy with it.But does it make me a lesbian becase I wanted to try or or thought about it?I'm not going to experiment or anything,I refuse to no matter how bad the urge is because I know that later on in life,I won't regret it either.I truly want to just really kill myself over this!I only think about sex with girls when someone mentions it and when I masturbate.Other than that,I always think about sex with guys.I want to be with a guy.I'm happy with guys.Does it sound like I am a lesbian or bi sexual or am I straight?

There`s a possiblity that you are bi-sexual/bi-curious..
If you don`t want to live with the "shame/harassment" of being les, then that`s just how most lesbians are... Because they`re trying to find them selves.. You need to uhm, keep your options open. You may like girls, you may not. Keep your options OPEN... Try dating `em. If it feels funny or wierd, you`re not attracted to females...

You cud like females and not want to have sex w/ `em..
Some people don`t even like the IDEA of sex...
But yeah, keep your options open and fool around a little bit. You can keep yourself on the DL (down low) if you want because you`re just exploring. If you ask someone older than you if you`re attracted to females or not, they`ll just say that you`re confused... Bi-sexuals eh. I think you`re bi. It`s your life. You can only determine what you want in life. Don`t let other`s opinions mess you up.

Ya your probably expirencing the bi curious part of you life a lot of girls have it sometime. It is okay it will pass. Just try taking your mind of it. really don't feel the need to kill your self suicide is never the answer. never ya but if you are having those problems just try dating one and see if the feeling are true. but ya I think your bi too but it is okay it is just the way you feel

I agree, based on what you wrote(and I did read all of it, lol) I think that you could be either bi-curious or bi-sexual. However, the only way for you to know for sure if you are a bi, is to try it out. Not something that I think you should try at your age, but some girls experiment with their friends to see if they would like it. I'm not saying you should ask this of your friends, but I'm just putting it out there.

Even if you love guys, you could still have a thing for girls also, even if you don't plan on marrying one. The doctor, as well as the tickling incidents, tell me that you are attracted to girls. Some girls think that other girls are attractive, aren't all turned on by girls. A girl could call their friend pretty without neccesarily being a lesbian or bisexual. If lesbian porn and the thought of a girl licking you causes you to get excited or turned on, you most likely are a attracted to girls.

The only way that you could call yourself a lesbian is if you are in no way attracted to or turned on by guys. You sound like you are DEFINATELY attracted to the opposite sex, so you aren't a lesbian.

Most guys find lesbians (or bisexual girls) attractive or sexy. I don't know why, it's a guy thing, but I don't think that it would be a problem if you and a guy are getting serious. As long as he knows, as long as you love each other, and you remain faithful to him, he shouldn't worry. Try listening to the song "My Girl Got a Girlfriend" by Ray Lavender. I'm not saying that all guys like this, some run from this, but I find it the same as a straight guy and a straight girl. Each have to worry about whether the other will cheat. Regardless of what gender the "other person" is, it will hurt. No matter what, not all guys are the same and just because some guys would never want ot marry a bisexual girl, doesn't mean that all are the same.

Suicide is NEVER the answer. Thought you may lose you friends if you find out that you are bisexual or lesbian, the truest ones will stick around. You family will always be their for you, no matter what you are related, nothing can change that. Relationships are not all to life, the same with movies: some like comedy some like horror. Some like both. You can still be friends with someone even though they like a different kind of movie. Movies aren't everything that like has to offer.

I suggest that you get talk to a bisexual girl and ask them how they found out that they were bisexual. There are some on this site actually.

Hey just calm down there probroly just hormones and just because you might be bi sexual doesnt mean a guy wont like you. I have lots of bi friends with boyfriends and girlfriends there boyfriends dont care that they have girl friends and vis versa. So you might just be bi curious. just try it with a girl and see if you like it. then try it with a guy and see if you like it. Theres nothing wrong with being bi or lesbian. its just a way of life.

that's 1 long post you've got there!
I imagine your curious - it's normal. I think the same - & feel the exact same way. But I believe it's just hormones because I want to b str8 & marry a woman!! There's no shame in being lesbian. You can't really put a label on yourself until your at least 16-18 when puberty ends. Until then I'd class you as straight/curious.

I never saw a question that long,

but all I can say is that do what you feel is right, right now you are curious

try being with a girl and if you are happy and it feels right then go right ahead.

yeah it looks like you going crazy with this, but many girls have the same problem
so dont worry, just do what make you happy

it sounds bi but really I think you should start being more active with guys and that might change what you think when you do it with a guy. and if you want to experiment go ahead once thats wats life is about trial and error how are u going to learn if you dont make mistakes. hope it helps if you still need help message me

Same thing with me. actually we sound a lot alike, not saying im attracted to you. but I turned 13 in the beginning of septemeber and I live in the east too. everything thats going on with you is happeneing with me. but I consider myself bi-sexual.. but that's my opinion

I think that you could be bisexual but you are also very young so you need to test both out guys and girls... if you feel comfortable and are turned on by girls then you might be bi but if you are uncomfortable being with a girl and you do not get turned on then chances are you were just turned on by the thoughts of being with another girl.
For instance I am not gay and I love men too... I have been with my man for 6 years now but I get turned on by other women. We have had another woman in the bedroom with us many times and I love it when she is touching me and going down on me .. its a big turn on for me.. but I also get turned on by my boyfriend... and would never change a thing. So I guess you could say I was bi but would never be with another woman inless my man was with me.. so a lot of guys get turned on by that.. my man loves it ... he wouldnt want it all the time but it spices things up so I think you need to find yourself. You dont need to tell everyone about it keep it on te downlow.. expierementing is the only way you will know/

3-Way thts all I have to say

I'm 14 and lesbian I don't see it as bad *shrugs* kid you worry too much thats all I'm going to say.

lol... that IS long.!
I`ve been meaning to tell you that... and I`m 14 and les..
nuthinz going too wrong over here.
you just have 2 know who to trust and deal with acceptance & things like that...
you`ll figure yourself out. .. give yourself time.

The same exact is happening to me.I'm a girl.I'm 13 and I still don't know what my sexuality is.I get feelings for both girls and guys but I think I'm more into guys because thats the way I was raised. I think it might be because of our hormones that we feel this way.I think about this a lot but I try not to worry too much and I think you shouldn't either.

I just think you need to shorten that up by about 6000 words and ask it again lol jk umm...maybe you could be bicurious because I have those thoughts too and im 14...but I know im not because before I get in the shower I look in the mirror and go..."I do not want that" lol just look at your self naked and put a different face on and see if you would honestly and seriously want that...and if you do just remember ...guys LOVE bisexual or even lesbian girls...they think its hot. so either way dont worry because either way guys will love you lol

THAT WAS LONG!!!anyways,you're still a young woman so your body is still searching itself.here's an idea,date a boy one week and a girl the next.now I read that you don't want sex till you're married,but if you're that desperate to find out what you are,you may want to let it slide.get attractive people who are willing to help you out with this idea.and if that don't work,go to your school consuler.take my advice,I wrote a book on getting girls last year,and my parent's stole my only copy.

It's like you can read my mind.
Now keep this in mind. I am a Christian and this is against my religion.

My story:

When I turned 13. I thought I was a lesbian. This went on until I turned 15[thats how old I am now]. I knew I couldn't tell anyone. I also had a boyfriend at the time and it seemed like every guy bored me. and then the girls turned me on. I found a chick who was a lesbian and I told her about this so I dated her for a week and It turns out that I did not find anything sexual about her and she told me that's how I know then a few months later I told my dad and all he did was call me a lesbian for two weeks. So thats they way I could tell maybe that will help you like maybe a really good friend to help you with that.

xXx
Mash

that is the way I felt at the same age. It does sound like you are curious and that is ok.I have been in the same position as you since I was about twelve and I have decided I'm bi. All I can tell you is to think about it and try it out

all I can say is that it is your choice I thought I was lesbian then bi and stuff but I just had to chose want I rele wanted you just need to rele think who you r and what you want

whoa...this must reallly be bothering you
so...um deep breaths lol
have you ever been with a girl? you dont have to but then youll be sure
your only 13...give yourself some time

Um, excuse me, but three of my best friends are bi. There is absolutely no problem with it, so I don't really appreciate you calling it 'a shame that you'd rather not live with.' That's just rude and incosiderate.
Anyways, just try going out with a girl, and see how you feel when it actually happens.
You're most likely bi-curious.