Do you think it's really just lust or true love?

I've been wit this guy 4 about 6 months i truly do love him he has everything i ever wanted in a guy i have never felf this 4 anyone else and lately my mom's been going thru guy problems and she saying that u cant have that love at fist sight type thing...

that love growz ok well see i meet my guy on myspace in december and up until april all we did was talk on the phone and the i talked to him and his family the more i realized i liked him hes smart and funny he works and hes always there 4 his family and friends we have the same view on everything we decide not to meet right away cuz u know online thing just not worth rushing just in case he was a syco killer it was so hard not going to see him evreyday that we talked i wanted to be with him more and more so in april we meet and from the min i saw him i knew that i loved him and i knew he felt the same way about me we spent and amazing day together we talked around ny and talked it was amazing i had 2 work that night so needless 2 say i had 2 go when i was waiting 4 my bus my heart ached i didnt want 2 leave being with hi just felt so right well i got on the bus and cried i didnt want 2 leave him a week later he came out 2 see me and we spent 2 days together and as i said b4 it felt right he was my first ive had the chance b4 wit other guys but id didnt feel right wit him it was and it was perfect i love being with him every min we spend together iz amazing when im not with him i feel a void in my life when im with him i have everything i nned but now my momz going thru her guy problems and shes telling me that i dont love him i lust him i dont believe wat shes tellin me i mean i do lust 4 him i want him but i also love him iz she tellin me the truth ?????

i think that you mom is just truying to get you away from him so that you wont get hurt like probably is so i think that if you really love him then you should go for it

No one can go around saying you do or do not love someone. You love in a childish, needy way--which is still a form of love nonetheless. What your mom is saying is that you don't love in a an adult way. Until you've adult problems in the real world supporting yourself as two adults, you really, as a young girl, have no idea what that love is like.

I am 32 years old. Do you know how many times I met a guy that "felt so right" that was "amazing" and "everything I need"? It happens over and over and over in life. It's okay to have this crush and be in love, but we don't need to up and change and move and destroy lives in order to be together. This guy is probably one of many in your future. They are all wonderful, they are all fabulous and oh my God you never think you will meet anyone like him and you'd be a fool to let him go.

My only real advice is to try to keep yourself grounded and on Earth by realizing that this "love" you feel with him is all the wonderful things that you want right now. *Right now*. Don't worry about going to your mom lamenting about love love love and arguing with her over whether it's love or lust or crush or serious or cute little girl love. It is what it is. You have strong feelings for this guy--that's cool. We don't need to figureitalloutrightthisverysecond. We can take a breath, enjoy the moments together, and let life play out the way that it will.