Will he ever leave his wife?

Im very confused.Im dating a married man.Well he always tells me that he loves me, and that he wants to start a life with me, but that I need to be patient.Well to me it just sounds like he is selfish and wants me to put my life on hold for something...

that will never be.He is always talking about that he is going to go see a lawyer to start paper work on a divorce.Well after days he dont mention nothing about talking to a lawyer, so I ask him how that went and its always one excuse after an other.Then he tells me hes moving out because she wants him out of the house.Well she's known about him having an affair with me now for like 11 months and still she wont leave him and neither will he.Please help me .

why would you want to be with someone who obevously cant be trusted? i dont think he has any intentions of leaveing her. even if he did, i think it would only be a matter of time before he did the same thing to you. do you sleep easily at night knowing you are having an affair with a married man? i know if i were his wife i would make both your lives a living hell. if i were you i would just cut all ties with him, and try to find a more healthy, and meaningful relationship.

If he is cheating on his wife now, then he is someone who is not trustworthy. He will do the same to you later, since he is capable. Imagine being married to him a few years down the line, and finding out he is having an affair with someone. How would it make you feel? How do you think his wife feels?

Im with mborders, I dont see how you can be comfortable ruining a marraige. If he really wanted to have something to do with you, it would have already happend. The whole "im going to file for divorce" talk is the common run around story that is usually told. You are the mistress- Not a serious commitment.

I would suggest getting out of the relationship, and finding a trustworthy man who is willing to give his all to you and the relationship. It will benefit you in the end!

What help do you need? That couple will remain together because neither the love nor the s*x is that which keeps them together. I do not know what is that, maybe the kids, or else. Maybe even they do not know the answer, e.g. they are just lasy to divorce. You have to be satisfied by the love and s*x, and that is not nothing. And your decision is that it is enough for you or not. I advice you to tell your man that it is not neccessary to talk about a common future, because you do not beleive that. Then your emotional balance might be restored.

Look, i might be a teen but i still give advice. If u know he has a wife u have to dump him. Plus, there might be something that his wife dont give him like u do. It will hurt leaving him but you ll get through it you have to be strong, but he'll know what it's like to be brokenhearted. Follow wat ur heart says not ur mind

You are his mistress, and thats all you will ever be to him. What hes telling you is everything YOU wanna hear.

Dr Phil offers HIS advice>

If you're involved with a married man, and you're waiting for your turn, it's time to re-evaluate your situation.
*It's time to move forward.
If you're putting your life on hold for a married man, he's stolen not only your heart — he's stolen your brain!

*No matter how you justify it, you are attacking his family unit.
Even if he is separated from his wife, that is their business and you are a threat to their marriage. You aren't welcome and you don't belong.

*You may feel that he's your soul mate, but think again.
A real soul mate would not set you on the sidelines. He wouldn't allow it, let alone entice it.

*Keep in mind that you only know what he tells you.
You already know that he's a liar because he's living a lie with his wife and children. How can you be sure whether you're the only "other woman" he has? Entertain the possibility that he is lying to you, and you are being used.

*Think of his wife.
Is it fair to her? She's been married to him for however many years, cleaned up after him when he's sick, raised children with him, sacrificed with him, dealt with the "damn dailies," then you come in at the 11th hour and provide a contrast to that that's new and exciting and fun. You are intruding upon her turf. You are a trespasser. It is no different than being a thief in the night. It is no different than breaking into their house and stealing their things.

*Even if your married man decided to leave his wife and family for you, that doesn't guarantee success.
Relationships born out of affairs survive less than 5 percent of the time. If he'll do it with you, he'll do it to you. If he's living this deception with you today, how could you ever trust him if you did get into a legitimate relationship with him?

*Break off this relationship today.
You'll hurt, you'll feel broken-hearted, but you'll be better off. Take some time to get really clear with yourself about who you are and what you want. The most important relationship you'll ever have in this world is the one you have with yourself. And eventually, you'll fall in love again — with someone who's willing to make you first in his life.

If he was going to leave his wife he would have done it quickly. Men will tell you what you want to hear before the truth. Its simply easier. How long has this been going on? If I were you and still wanted to entertain the affair, I would set a time limit of no longer than a month. Tell him this deadline and stick to it. If he doesn't leave within this time limit, he will never, ever leave!

Nope He won't!!He would of done it already!! My husband had an affair with this girl for like two years and he even had a child with her!He promised her a million things and said he loved her and he never left me so there is your answer

He is playing you...dump him...he is a liar...he wants his wife and the affair...he is using you...get out now and get someone new and tell his wife what hes been doing if you do the wife will throw him out and he will be yours...

I was involved with my boyfriend for 5 months, when he filed for divorce from his wife. Two weeks before he filed was the first time he brought up the topic of divorcing his wife and starting as new life with me. You see: he brought it up. I was happy and astonished at the same time - and he really stuck to his plan.

I think that men that really have the intension to get out of a marriage, for whatever reason, just do it and do not talk about it too much with their mistress, nor do they make up big verbal future plans. They just DO it, they do not talk about it over and over again.

Sometimes a new relationship is just the LAST BIG PUSH, to make him realize what he wants or doesn't want anymore. I think unlike women, men need escape helpers in form of a new relationship, to make it out of an unhappy marriage, a new love can be the real incentive to finally change his situation.

My girlfriend was together with a married man for 18 months, he now filed for divorce and they plan on moving together, and my own grandmother was left by my grandmother for his mistress, her married his mistress and they had a happy marriage until the day he died.
So, yes, it is possible that men leave their wives for their mistresses and have a happy ever after, but those that do were not just looking for an affair or a fling, they were looking for an escape partner to take them by the hand. A man that waits too long to make up his mind for his mistress, is either not ready to leave his wife yet or thinks that you are not the right partner for him.
In any event, you are wasting your time, if he does not know in a foreseeable time that he wants to be ONLY with you. If you are already asking the question to yourself whether he will leave, that means you are already impatient. It comes then to the point to leave - without ultimatum. Men that truly love do not need an ultimatum.

So the longer you wait and the more he talks about what he wants instead of doing what he wants, the greater the odds that he does not have the intentions or the guts to get out of his marriage. In any event: you are wasting your time!