Why would he break up with me for not meeting his parents?

I'm having a hard time dealing with my previous breakup. My bf broke up with me because I wouldn't meet the parents. I wasn't ready. We'd only been together 6 months. He acts like I cheated on him or something. I know I need to let go. I'm just having a...

hard time with it. It just seem like there was more to the break up then what he told me. Any advice?

I kinda am in the same boat. My ex broke up with me ecause he didn't love me anymore. My grades have gone down to B's and i am always tired and depressed all the time. And I am positive there was another reason other than that. May'be if you asked him, but don't like pressure him, become his friend and bring up an old memory from when you two were going out, then kinda just ask why..
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u need to go staright up to him and ask him what are the other things why u guys had to break up other than u meeting his parents. and dont make him say anything stupied cuz if he does slap the hell out of him . cuz u deserve an answer and right away ! also tell him how he made u feel and then slap him again !

Do not feel any bad. You wanted a real male, and you had a unmatured son of a family, who could not be independent more than few weeks. Of course, if you are together for alonger time, "once" you should meet his family, but whan that is your decision and not of his. Be happy this problem raised in time. Anyhow you could have found yourself as an appendix of a family. Would you have needed this.

It sucks that he did that, but you know what he does not deserve you. Can you imagine how many times he would brake up with you for stupid reasons. obviously he does not take you serious and why would you want to spend your time wasting it with some one who is not worth it. im sorry that it happened to you. im sure there is a mr. right out there for you and you will be happy and meet his parents when you want and if he loves you then he will respect you and let you meet his parents when you are ready. i think that you should not ask him why he did that just leave it as it is and let him wonder why isnt she asking why i broke up with her show him like you dont care and soon he will come up to you and try and talk to you and you take it from there. yet again my oppinion good luck in what you want.

Thanks EVERYONE! I apprecaited all the advise given.

It made NO sense that he broke up with me because I didn't meet the parents. Especially since he'd been talking about us getting married. Then out of the blue he just dumps me.

Yes! Closure would be nice but I'm just not going to get that from him.

Again thanks everyone.

Oh I wrote a blog about the break up on my space. I'm going to put it on here. I'd like some feed back from ya'll if thats ok.

Well, darlin, I think it makes perfect sense that he didn't want to date you when, after 6 months, you didn't want to meet his parents.

In dating scenarios, you have to look outside yourself in certain situations to understand them. Maybe his parents are super outgoing and friendly and love to meet people and are very close to their son and after 6 whole months of your refusal to come and meet them, they considered it rude and your boyfriend felt the same way.

My best friend--his new girlfriend has refused to meet me and my boyfriend. I've invited her to Thanksgiving breakfast, bowling nights, movies, dinner parties. After awhile, it's just plain rude for her not to make an appearance or to even just acknowledge the invitations that we have given. So I don't invite either one of them anymore. He is starting to realize that it was rude and is now addressing her about it. She's taking the same stance you are. But the bottom line is that 6 months is plenty of time therein to meet the friends and family of someone you are dating.

Meeting parents is not a big deal. It is not a step towards marraige or engagement. And it it certainly is appropriate this this boy's parents would like to meet and know who he is spending most of his time with. It's their jobs as parents.

It seems to me that you just weren't that into this guy and you didn't want to make an "official appearance" as his girlfriend because you didn't want the responsibility of it. So in my opinion, the guy and his family picked up on this one way or another. You insulted them, so they kicked you to the curb.

Maybe that can be another perspective for you to consider instead of just *your* side of things. Because relaitonships are about the needs, wishes, and desires of two people, not just you.

In reply to juniperone answer:

AS you might be correct on some of the things you said. You do not know the whole story so please do not try to judge.

I met his really family. The parents he wanted me to meet we're not his really family. They were his best friends parents. He never asked me to go with him to meet them official. He did however talked to me about meeting them a couple times. I said I'm willing to meet them but I really like to meet them when I'm ready. I am a shy person and I'm not good with meeting people. I wasn't trying to be rude. I also felt that I wanted to get to know him better before I made that next step. He was already talking about marriage, kids and us living together. Dont get me wrong I wanted to marry him. I just thought we should take it slow. Before him I had been in a 10 year relationship with a LOSER. That put me down and push me around. Another reason I wanted to take it slow. Another reason; I had been in and out of TEMP jobs so I wasn't do so well Financially. I was feeling put LOW about my self. I didn't want the parents to ask me "what I did for a living" and I say "oh well"" right now I'm unemployed". How does that look? (At this very moment I am employed at a great job. I love the people I work with. Things are finally turning around.)

I know that they might sound like excuses but that is how I truly felt.

Before we broke up; I was suppose to meet the parents (fake parents) one weekend. Then he turned around didn't talk to me after that Friday night because I didn't go to a BAR with him and his friends. I dont like BARS so I didn't go. I even ask him if he would be upset if I didn't go. He said "NO".We kissed good night. I ask him to call me when he made it home. Just so I knew he was home safely! I tried getting ahold of him the next day but couldn't. I finally went to his apartment around 6:00. I thought something had happened. Guess what he was there......We talked for a little while. He told me that the family doesn't want to meet me now. They're offend by my actions. My ACTIONS. I hadn't done anything. YOU SEE he told them I didn't want to meet them. So OFcourse they didn't want to meet me and were offended. Then he left said he was staying at the folks said he'd call me later. I was upset that whole weekend. I didn't hear from him till that Monday morning telling me to come get my stuff. After I left his place I email his mother because I didn't want her to think I was trying to be rude. I'm not a bad person. She emailed me back, gave me her work NUMBER. I called her and we talked. She told me that they never un-invited me. She also said she hoped that him and I could work things out and looked forward to meeting me.

I'm not trying to make him sound like a bad guy. He his a great guy. We had a lot in common and he never treated me badly up until the break up. All break ups end badly. The reason he gave me made no sense. All his actions that weekend made no SENSE. That is why I am having a hard time dealing with it. I just dont understand.

I think there is more to it... sometimes guys uses opportunities to cover up what the real reason is... but thats just me... meeting his parents to me isn't really that big of a deal... and it could wait... i think there is bigger issues here... but just let him go... he isn't worth your time! You got the looks so go find yourself someone who is worth your time.

Well the 2nd story is a whole different issue than the original problem you posted. I'm checking out of this one.