Best way to find closure?

My ex girlfriend lost her baby last year, I never got over it, I wrote a letter to the baby, who would be 7 months old tommorow

Letter to my daughter

Good morning princess, I miss you, you were going to be daddys little girl, But I never had the chance...

to look at you or hold you
We lost you and to this day, it kills me knowing I will never get to know you, Everytime I spoke to you in your mummys tummy, you would kick, Everytime you heard my voice, your mummy would say you had kicked again, I loved you and I couldn't wait to hold you in my arms. You were going to be just as beautiful as your mummy, I loved her and you so much, even though you were still in her tummy, I talked to you every night, I never swore around you and always kissed you goodnight before going to sleep at night.

I don't understand why you are gone, the doctor told us you were going to be a healthy baby girl, but then one day your mummy told me she was having stomach pains and the next day you were gone, I'll never forget the look on your mummies face when she found me in the dark bathroom crying my eyes out, I never got a chance to spend any time with you, Wherever you are, I know you are being looked after and that you are playing up there and that you are happy, One day, I will see you and I will make up for everything that we didn't get to do together, I'll read you any story you want and play peek a boo with you everyday. I love you so much and even though me and your mummy are no longer together, I love her still, as much as I loved you, I still have the teddy bear I was going to put in your cot when we brought you home, but that never happened, One day I will give you your teddy bear, I love you always

Daddy

Does this sort of thing really help deal with it or is writin it down just a waste of time?? I don't feel any different but at the same time I'm glad I wrote it

hi there, it's so touching to read that letter. Writing down what you are feeling is definitely not a waste of time. well, I want to say what other several thousand people may be telling u. Get over it and get on with your life. well, it's good, of course that you love your daughter so much. your daughter may probably know how much you love her, from up there in the heaven. and I know what it feels like to be loved by my dad. it's just great. if you want to, write that kind of letters as many as possible, if it makes you happy.
I wish all three of you meet up one another in the heaven one day.

that was a very sweet letter
and writing it was a step in the right direction
of course, nothing can take the pain away
but some things can help you deal with it
feeling betetr about writing the letter is good, dont throw it out, keep it somewere safe
its nice to know there are good men out there
and im sure your wife is happy to have got you!
nothing can change the past but you can start making plans for the future

The reality is, you never get over something like that. You may come to accept it, but it will tug at your heart.

Great letter and a very Loving thing to do - I believe somehow she knows and is smiling down and pointing out to the Angels around her, 'Hey, that's my Dad' !!