How can I tell my friend to back off?

What should I do if a friend needs to be told to back off? I have a friend who is a really high maintenance. She always has to have her way. She flirts with my older brothers, one 17 and the other 20, and we are only 15. She fights with her best friend a...

lot and then she comes crying to me. I am really sick of her. What should I tell her?

She sounds to me (my opinion) that she's needy...lots of drama and needs to feel she's the center of attention, either from your brothers (boys) or from you, when she fights with her friend. In my experience, this is because she is lacking in self-confidence. Rather than lose her friendship by hurting her feelings, maybe you should compliment her on her great qualities, tell her she doesn't need to have approval of boys and that instead of wasting time with petty fighting, she should find ways to nurture her great qualities through activities she enjoys. You won't change her - only she can. It's not your job to do it, anyway. But she can't change what she doesn't know is a problem - so find a kind way to point it out. But you can at least know that you tried to be a good friend, and didn't just dismiss her because she was bugging you.

Meg :-)

The truth, if this is how you feel and she is your friend and can confide in you, then you should be able to confide in her and tell her exactly how you feel about her and tell her its best that she backs off becos if she doesnt there may not be a friendship there with you anymore.