Baby at 16?

Me anf my fiancee are wanting a baby so bad. We have saved up over $10000 for the baby and have already planned everything out, in every situation. I am 16 and he is 17 and we really want to do this. We have not talked to my parents but his parents want...

grandchilren so bad before they die, and their time is coming soon. My parents will be furious but we want this so bad and ont care what they think. We both make a lot of money a month, (dont ask how, nothing illegal though) and we are ready. We love each other and are always going to be together, wedding next year in January. So what do we do? Oh and by the way, I am a sophmore in high school and am a honor student and always manage to keep up on work and have many credits already for the next two years that I have left. So what do you think? Please help.

having a baby at your age is not such a good idea. your sssooo young, and even getting married at your age is not smart. you have your entire life ahead of you, why would you want to be tied to one person because of your boyfriends parents wanting grand kids???
your boyfriends parents shouldnt be pressuring you guys to give them grand kids. so I would wait on the wedding, and baby until you are both at least 20. if you have the same feelings years from now, then go for it.

I think that you shud at least wait until you graduate from high school. even though you are an honor student and have enough money and love 2 support a baby, you will regret not going 2 college or AT LEAST finishing high school. even if you make enough money doing watever you do, you need 2 have a second option, just in case it doesn't work out, caus eit will b embassaring to have 2 go to adult education if you dont finish high school and decide later thatu want an education. you can always go 2 college, but I dont think that you can have a baby and manage a marriage and go 2 school all at the same time. you mentioned that yur boyfriend's parents are old, they may not be able 2 help you if you get stuck, even if they support yur decision. it seems that if you do this that yur parents will go ballistic. they may not help you out of spite, unless you are in deep doo-doo. think this through and keep in mind that it would be best to finish high school or things wont work out the way you and yur guy are planning.

Money cant buy happiness, I personally think your rushing things way too fast. Your way too young to get married let alone have a baby.
Education >> Strong relationship >> Career >> Ring >> Financially stable >> Baby.
Theres no way you have all of that at 16-years-old.

For one a Baby costs WAY more than 10 thousand dollars.It costs about 20 thousand dollars to have a baby in a Hospital or any other facillity.Then after that, just the first year of life (not including being born) costs about 17 thousand dollars!!! Then it should cost about 500 thousand dollars to raise a child to the age of 18 (not including the first year).This isnt including the cost of your house which the monthly payments on an average sized house is about 1,500 dollars.Then you have to pay the water bill wich is about 250 dollars average.Then theres the electric bill which is about 300 dollars or more on average.Then you have to consider the cost of your things like food and clothes.Then if one of you was to get sick or worse,you could be in major trouble with money. Also it is very dangerous for a 16 or 17 year old to have a child. To tell you the truth there is no way that you are ready to have a child because if you think that you are always going to be together then you are probably mistaken. almost 60% of marriages fail and you have no way of knowing what could happen in the future.Also having a child before someone passes away is not a good reason,because your just having a child for someone to see.What happens afterwards? If they arent going to be here for long do you really think its a good idea to have a child just so they can see it? even if you want a child also,you are going to have to deal with a lot afterwards.youll most likely regret it. please think about this.

well, im actually going to say it would be a good idea
but only if having this baby is going to make your life... complete really
and you and you partner extatically happy!
there is all the time in the world to think about this and have a baby
but if you feel like you cant live without one now, then yes, id say go for it...
BUT! you will need more money in the near future to raise it
also learn as much as you can about taking care of them, get all the tips you can
even hang around some other mothers to get a good idea of what they do
it would be good to wait untill after youve finished school, but if you dont care about other people judging you and are going to continue with your studies then it should be ok.
also it would be a good idea to tell YOUR parents!
no matter how mad they get, try and make them understand that youve found mr.right
and really want to raise a family of your own.
so have a good hard thiik about all this
but again, if your going to be happy then theres nothing wrong with it
although getting married at your age is a bit young, you dont need a peice of paper to prove your love to someone, so that bit could wait a bit.
...some people want to spend there life working,
some risk-taking...some doing other things
and some people just want to have a baby, its perfectly ok!

for gods sake child, thats exactly what you are a child!!?? why are you even thinking about such things at this age??!! and as for your grandparents, how selfish can they be for wanting you to have a baby just so they can see it before they die!! which as you say could be soon anyway! then what? I am a mother and I know how hard it is, you probably have the mentality that ''its like sooo much fun for now because we have like sooo much money!" NOT!! its a hard job EVERYDAY, for the REST of your life, and you'd be selfish to put that on your baby, because even though you think you're ready now, you're not! you're a child yourself, go and have fun! maybe you should go to a childs clinic somewhere for orphans and spend at least 6 months working there - without being paid - so you can see how it is, because thats how being a mother is, and its not only part time!!! and it wont only be 6 months, but the rest of your life!

I'm not going to tell you the same thing everyone else is.
Because I don't agree with them.
It's not our decision.
It's yours.
IF you really want the baby, go ahead.
But if there's ANY doubt, consider waiting.
I wish you the best of luck whatever the outcome.

Dear fau,
You don't have anywhere near enough money to raise a child. You as a parent need to be a good role model. You would not even have your high school diploma never mind college or university...what kind of role model is this? If you need something to fulfil you life you do not choose a baby for this...how selfish. You do not use a baby to prove how much you love someone...how childish. As parents our duty is to socialize our children, be a good role model and teach coping skills and independence. You have none of these.
Sue...good luck

Your going to need way more than 10,000$ to raise a kid. I know I'm going to get sh!t for this but If this is something you really want to do don't let anyone talk you out of it. Do what makes you happy, but make sure you are going to be able to support it in the long run. You have to be a mom for 18 years, you can just leave when things get hard. You can't go hang out with friends whenever you want. You can't party. The baby comes before ANYTHING! Just make sure that your doing the right thing. I wish all the best for you!

im in a situation kinda like yours. except I dont work cause my dad wont let me and im 17. me and my fiance are getting married next month ( ill be 18 by then) and we both want a baby. we tried once and had a miscarriage. do your parents know about the wedding, and how do they feel? cause mine totaly hate the idea of me getting married. so any way if you put your mind to it you can do anything, but be wise about your choises. There is a girl here with a 2month old (she is so adorable) and is married and is 17 and a junior. so yea. I would at least wait 'til late your senior yr or out of high school.

Funmail me.

I can see why you would think it is such a great idea, but I have a few points that I think you should consider:
Do you remember how you felt about your intelligence and life experience when you were 13? You feel the same way about your age now when you are 20.
Do you feel like a baby would establish your relationship with your boyfriend? I've noticed a lot of teen seem to feel like if they have a baby, their boyfriend will stay with them and they will all live happily ever after. It is indeed a fairy tale fantasy.

Have you thought about getting a pet together for a few years. See how you work together as a team, raising an animal, before a child. I wish you the best.

well I think if your parents dont want a grandson 4 a reason you know like your not reponsiple but tell why you really want this baby if it still doesnt work maybe bring your parents in law and let them tell them with you that they really want this baby before they DIE.

what kind of advice is that 'daisy97'? its not advice, its stupidity!! an answer like that can only be answered by some one who doesnt know what they're talking about!

I had a baby at 15, I wasn't ready. My best friend had a baby this year (18) and she still wasn't ready.

The thought of a baby is nice, but when it is brought into this world that's another thing.
No more freedom, barely any relationship time, you're exhausted.
$10000 can only last for so long.

Every time I talk to younger girls about this they always say the same thing "..but I am ready! I know the consequences!"
No, you don't.

bravo goregasmik!! finally some one with the actual experience of it all talking sense!!! so I hope you have taken note of this very wise piece of advice ''Fau''.

all the best to you though goregasmik, even though I know you wish things had probably been different, you also probably wouldnt change your darling baba for the world!!! and now that he/she is here, you just have to make the most of it I guess, but Fau, dont go looking for trouble!!!

K so you don't even have a house of your own, why plan on having a child? I know it sounds good, but youll change so much in the next few years. Wait until the timing is right. When you have your own place, good stable jobs and what not. It is sort of selfish to have one right now. Wait til you graduate at least, it is hard going through school, and being pregnant. The harmones alone make it hard. Believe me I know. Good luck in whatever you decide

I had a baby at your age and it the bast thing I have ever done. But when I got pregnant I didnt have any money at all. But you do so I think you guys should. Its the bast thing in the world.

I am 17 years old and have been trying to get pregnant for a year in a half. I think that if you both have thought a lot a bout it. then you should do it. but just remember that if a baby can always tear down a relationship. make sure you talk bout it because when the time comes, you both may feel stressed and start fighting. if you think that you can do it than go ahead. congratulaions to you both!!!