Are there any teen mommies here?

Hi, I'm 14 possibly pregnant and would like to know if there is any other teen parents that I could talk to, and maybe get advice from...So just message me

Whew,

I'm hoping that no responses means that there aren't any teen mothers, and people are being responsible about sex...

I doubt it, there are TONS of threads on here about being pregnant at 13, 14, and 15. They are probably just dead tired from being up with the baby all the time. lol.

yeah, oh and to prkswllflwr.

I think it's very rude that yoo'h could say that, I wouldn't want anyone to judge me and I wouldn't judge anybody and it isn't about being respohnsible, things happen and yoo'h shouldn't dis somebody on that level. I don't appreciate anyone talking about me like that, &+ if someone says that I'm irresponsible they must be saying
1.I wouldn't be a good mom
(and yoo'h don't know me to even say)
2.I'm not ready for a kid
(once again yoo'h don't even know me)

so I'd appreciate it if people could keep there mouths shut.

especially if yoo'h don't have experience as a teen mom or dad anyways.

thank yoo'h.

princessxchelsea> Its spelled you, not "yoo'h!! Sex just doesnt happen...it is a choice that YOU make. If more teens were better educated, and had good role models, they're would be less teen pregnancies in the world, and more teens who practice abstinence!

Children who are raised by both parents from birth have a decreased risk of becoming sexually active. Teens who are regularly involved in their places of worship tend to delay the onset of sexual activity. Adolescents whose parents discuss sex with them are likely to delay onset of sexual relationships, as are teens who expect to go on to college. An additional factor that helps protect kids in this area is closeness or “connectedness” to their parents. Teenage girls who relate well to their parents tend to delay onset of sexual activity, and when they do become sexually active, they make better choices about contraception.

Immaturity
Many younger adolescents are not particularly developed in their ability to think as adults until they reach 15 or 16 years of age. At 12, 13, or 14 years old, adolescents are generally incapable of making decisions based on a reasoned understanding of the future consequences of their actions. Their brains have yet to develop the connections that allow them to think that way. Teens at this stage live much more in the moment than do older teens or adults. Adolescents often do not connect the actual act of intercourse with the real possibility of having a baby nine months later. This inability to perceive future consequences of current behavior is called cognitive immaturity.

Personal Myth
As part of growing up mentally, adolescents, especially early adolescents, experience what has been called a personal myth. This means that these teens feel as if they have special protection from risky behaviors and that bad consequences won’t happen to them. Fortunately, most of us grow out of this way of thinking by middle adolescence when we start getting more freedom from parental control. If the early adolescents who think this way do not have adequate supervision from parents and are not protected by some of the factors mentioned above, they will be at much higher risk for the onset of sexual activity with all of its consequences.

Low self-esteem
Girls who have low self-esteem or who are depressed may engage in sexual activity as a way of trying to make themselves feel better. Girls who have parents who are distracted or depressed may also feel the need to seek warmth and nurturing through sexual liaisons. Girls who abuse alcohol or drugs may not make very good choices about sex and contraception. And girls who do not have an effective male role model during their early and mid-adolescent years also may be vulnerable to the attentions of older men from whom these girls seek “fathering” as much as they seek romance and intimacy. These older men, however, are usually not motivated altruistically. They enter these relationships frequently because they find a younger woman easier to control. Some of these girls also are prey to men who want to prove to themselves that they are capable of fathering a child. We do know that on the average, the fathers of babies born to teen moms are at least four years older than the girls. So most of these men are adults, not teens.

Possible Solutions
Alleviation of some of the factors mentioned above might have a real impact on the pregnancy rate among adolescents in this country. Actions that we as a society could take include:

Detecting girls with depression/low self-esteem when they are children or in very early adolescence.
Doing all we can to ensure that girls have effective male role models, especially if their natural fathers are not active in their lives.
Making sure that all teens are educated in how to avoid unwanted sexual activity.
Making sure all teens know about effective contraception if they do choose to have sex.
Making sure that teens know the risks that are caused by alcohol and drug use and that those with substance abuse problems are detected and treated.

Another factor putting girls at risk is lack of knowledge about how to avoid having sex and about contraception if they choose to have sex.

You seem to be judging the majority of the population who choose to be more responsible, and use protection. You are the minority in case you didn't know. If you choose to have sex without using any form of protection, then you have to be prepared for the consequences!

im not going to read what YOO'H wrote, first of all because yoo'h disrespected me, and secondly because honestly you're are speaking cruely to me to begin with and all I asked for was advice not a bunch of immature a*sholes

All you have to do is browse "Love and Relationships".

You don't have to only take advice from teens. The older woman with children might be some help too.

Yup! Im pregnant, and 14. Im very excited but scared of the pain =[

hey im a teenage mom 16 with two kids and one on the way fun mail me if there is any thing you need to talk about here is a pic. of me and my babygirl

that is stupid save your gift of sexuality for the person you marry. you slut!

I agree with ^^^