A few questions for women.

Hello,

My name is Stephen, a New Orleans native, and just shy of turning 20 years old. I'm a little overweight, but I surround myself with very attractive friends. To be perfectly honest I'm starting to feel weird with women. I haven't been able to...

identify what it is I'm doing incorrectly with the women I'm pursuing. I'm really really good at making friends, so I should be a likable guy. It's just that the recent girls I've really fell hard for have managed to leave me fallen. I'm that guy who get all the calls from his friends that are girls and his friend's girlfriends (which puts me in terrible situations) when they are having problems or just when their partner is non supportive. I'm also the guy that is always left by himself when everyone goes to hook up at parties and what not. To be honest, It's starting to get very discouraging. I try to carry myself in a way that I would find attractive and also what I gather from the aforementioned phone calls. I maintain confidence, people tell me I have a great sense of humor, I love to dance when I'm out (even if I'm not that fantastic at it), I try to be honest with women, but it's always the same result. They either become my best friend, or they ask me how to get with my friends. I have probably gotten some of my friends way more action than they've ever gotten themselves. I'm just starting to feel very unattractive. Why is is that I am best friend material, but not boyfriend material? I've had a couple girlfriends in the past and a hook up here and there but it seems when I actually find what I'm looking for. They are never looking back. I don't want to try and put myself down because that will never solve anything. I've been told that I'm "wonderful" or a "great guy" and my problem is that I'm too nice or that maybe I'm looking in the wrong places or for the wrong women but seriously I'm just tried of it. I try so hard to keep my best foot forward but when I actually like someone my best foot gets stepped on. It just begs the question of how great or wonderful can I be and still constantly be treated like this, still constantly be alone. I apologize for being so wordy, I guess it had just been a long time coming.

Thanks,
Stephen

Wow,to be honest you sound like a great guy.People trust you a lot if theyre coming to you for advice.
As for a relationship,Id just try to stop looking for one,and see if it comes to you.Sometimes the relationships are right in front of you,and you really don't even know it.
Id recommend going out as much as you can,and meet new people,not necessarily for dating,but just for the sake of going out.And who knows,maybe someone will come looking for you.

Hey, I would like to give you different advice from the above, but I honestly cant.
Take time to get to know yourself, and eventually someone will see interest in you if you show no interest at all...I guess what Im trying to spit out here is dont look for it, she will come to you!

I had a good friend who was a bit like you. He always was having a hard time hooking up with girls even though he was the greatest guy on earth. I found that the problem was he intimidated women because he was really intelligent, sensitive and honest. Also he was really skinny and not your "average" jock. The thing is a lot of younger women (under 25) tend to be really insecure, confused and even superficial. And of course this means they aren't really mature enough to choose a man because he has great qualities to be a great partner. It sounds like you might be on the loosing end (FOR NOW!) but I promise you there is no way in hell that you won't find your goddess that will be totally head over heals for you. Why? Because sincerely most men out there are mediocre and wont' ever be as intelligent, understanding and respectful as you. Mark my words!!
I also agree that you just got keep your head up high (nothing's more attractive and intimidating then a man with confidence!) keep on laughing (most women choose laughter over good looks). Please don't give up! It would be such a shame! So get out there, indulge yourself in what makes you happy, even try meeting women a bit older then you and stop letting people use you as a dating service. Next time tell them to do it themselves, you got more important stuff to do like figuring out what kind of women you really want in your life.

I forgot to say that my friend was and is a real hit now that he's a bit older...I bet you'll be too!