What do i do about this complicated relationship?

Here's the deal- I've known my ex since '04. We broke up in '05, but stayed talking. He relocated to go to school in IL, & I recently moved down to GA. No less than a month after I moved, he came to see me for 2 wks. & we ended up picking up right where...

we left off. Except that this time we have decided not to coin the term "relationship" b/c of the distance & we both cannot afford to lose focus @ the moment. We are both late in starting college. Recently he took his entire 1 week spring break to come see me once more. We have good sex, deep conversation.. we talk practically everyday, send e/o gifts, have silly nicknames & essentially what we have is no different from any other relationship except that we do not use the term. If he messes w/ another b*tch I could honestly care less, b/c at the end of the day he is proving to me that he's coming to see me & using his last dime on me. We are working towards possibilities of love, but realistic w/ it. I would like to meet people in similar situations.

I would like to emphasize the fact that we are not simply having sex, being that we have known each other for about 3 years. we get along very well and love each other, but we cannot afford to go @ it full-force because of the distance and the fact that we are two down-to-earth people that realize, ultimate love takes time to develop. I hope that shines a little light onto it, b/c lets be REAL, in a real long-lasting relationship the "love thing" is not the ONLY thing that holds 2 people together. compromise, endurance, respect, patience etc. are essential as well. come on I know that im not the ONLY female with this type of perception on love.

Honestly, in my own opinion if I loved him and felt a true deep love, I would try and find a way to be with him. He seems like he's pretty happy at his college, and if you say you're a year behing getting enrolled, why not join him at his school?

I completely agree with you, you love each other, spend time together, get what you both need right now with out the serious commitment and if you are both happy with each other and the way things are right now then fine, i dont see anything wrong with it. If he treats you as well as you'd like to be treated right now then all is good. Eventually when you both have the time and will power to go at it full force then deal with it then, but if this works for you both right now then goodluck to you and have fun!