Have i missed out from only being with two men?

I have been the 2nd for 13 years. I picked the nice shy guys. I was afaid of being used.had a lot of guys after me. Now I think maybe a wild one-nighter might have made me really honor the good guys.

Dear tapple,
not sure just what your question is but are you saying should you go out and have one night stands??? Are you asking if you did the right thing by being careful and thoughtful about who you got involved with?
As we get older we can play the what IFgame...but it's just a game and isn't reality because it is what IS that is reality. You don't have to have a lot of men in your life to validate you are desirable; that comes from the heart. It's refreshing to hear that there are females out there as myself who take relationships seriously and think before we jump in with two feet. The question that you're afraid to be used should be addressed and there are some great women's groups out there that deal with this issue. Seek them out and be proud of who you are.
Sue...good luck

I have talked with many woman that wondered that kind of question well into there married life’s. It is a futile question, as Sue 90 pointed out. Some wonder, what would it feel like to have a man that would ___________ or that had a _____________ fill in the blanks. The "good girls" wonder what it would be like to be with a rascal. The bad girls wonder if they should have held out for a good guy to come along. As the toll collector told the woman that had gone the wrong way on the turnpike. When she said "I was supposed to go west" He said "Lady, what was was, you went east" Best way to avoid the wrong way situation and wonder if you should have, could have or would have is to think first, get good advice and stick by your choices. Some of them are for a lifetime and can't be undone. Good Luck, Gino