15 and pregnant

im 15 years old and im 3 months pregnant I have told my family and they think I should have a abortion so they made me an appointment this wednesday but im to scared to go through with it but do you think I should any way?

It's something that you need to decide.
If you dont have an abortion:
Are you ready to carry the baby for 9 months? Are you ready for strechmarks, to get fat, and have hemmroids? Are you prepared for the looks people will give you? Are you ready for most of your friends to abandon you, because they will I promise. Are you prepared to give the baby up for adoption and watch another couple take they baby? Because at such a young age I do not advise keeping it, you have your whole life ahead of you, this will slow you down and change everything for good. Are you prepared to become attached to the baby when you start feeling it inside of you, because you will become attacthed only to give it away. It's a very emotional process, giving a baby up for adoption, it's very hard for a mother to do at any age but especially a young one.

Oh wow... When My friend though she was preggers immeditly eveyone told her she needed to get rid of it.. It will really ruin your life I donno about you but a lot of teens rather go out party have fun rather than stay home and be a mother...

I know someone who was in your shoes..they had an abortion and it haunted them the rest of their life...it's something you just don't forget...whatever decision you make will be important...consider all options...what does the boyfriend say? My friend had the abortion and is feeling guilty all the time...it's just what happens...that's the choice you make and it's not easy...some people can go on in life but the memory will come back...that's what you have to live with...so if you have the baby you could bless some husband and wife who can't have children ...that isn't a bad choice...choose life... the easy way out isn't always that easy...

Is it all about you mandyloo??? that's what you are saying...you don't even mention that thats a person you want to destroy...!! let's say what it is...it is a person who by no choice or their own hangs "life" literaly in the balance of convenience...

chrysanthemum
I was just being honest and telling her the truth. No need to get mad. Also, it's not a baby yet, it's a fetus. The definition of a baby, is after they are born. It's simple definitions my dear look it up.
Also, how did I say it's all about me. I myself have never had an abortion, I have a beautiful 3 month old son. I also am not 15 though, I'm a grown woman.
I know people who have gotten abortions and it was the right choice for them and their situation. Just as I think it's the right choice for this young lady. It is HER choice though. Not yours or mine. I was just telling her how hard it could be to carry they baby at such a young age.
You have no right to sit there and judge her and tell her she's killing her baby, it's not a baby yet, it's a fetus.

I say have it and give it to a family that would love it. There are so may people out there that can't have them. If you have an abortion there are so many emotional issues that go along with that and you have no idea how that could affect you for the rest of your life!!! Do what is right in your HEART. If it's alive in you now, it's a life you'd be taking. sorry mandyloo, but it's the truth. "Getting fat, hemmorrhoids, stretch marks, blah blah blah..." That is incredibly selfish to use as reasons to eliminate a life. It has a heart that is beating inside of her, call it what you want but it's the truth. It's still a living being within her and she is sustaining that life. Who cares if it's called a "fetus" or a "baby", we all know that if it was let go to term it would be a living baby. Do what is in your heart, what you honestly feel is right.

"That is incredibly selfish to use as reasons to eliminate a life."

Those weren't the only reasons that I gave ma'am. Also, were talking about a 15 year old girl here, young girls constantly worry about their bodies and have low self esteem because of it. I wasn't saying that's the only reason that she should, I was just saying that it's something to think about.

"If it's alive in you now, it's a life you'd be taking. sorry mandyloo, but it's the truth."
It's still a fetus and not a baby. The definitions are simple.

"we all know that if it was let go to term it would be a living baby"
Yes, but it is not full term as of now is it? No. So it's still a fetus and not a baby.

"Do what is in your heart, what you honestly feel is right."
I told her that she is the one that has to decide this, not me not you, not anyone else. I was just giving her a different perspective and a look at the other side of it. Ya'll on the other hand are trying to make her feel bad and telling her that she should not "kill" her fetus. It is her decision in the end. Why do you have the right to make her feel bad about it?

Okay, because all your fighting is helping this girl? eh no! its her choice to get ride of it or not and really if shes clever she wont listen to any off you because all you are doing is fighting about it. you have to deside for your self, dont listen to the people on here or your family ( might sound weird I no) but its your life you have to deside by your self ( or with your partner)... I have a friend who feel pregnent when she was 15 and shes now 16 and is due any day now and shes been fine the whole way throught yes its been hard some time but hell thats life aint it... x

alisonj285
Which is exactly what I was telling her. It's her choice and no one elses.

your family has know right to decide wethere to keep or kill your baby if you think you should go through with it then do what you must but if you whant to keep it then keep it also dont forget about adoption there a family out there waiting for a miracle. also if you have the baby it deserves to be with a loving caring family that could be you or someone else. just do what you think is right in your heart

emogall100
Just to let you know, your family can make you have the abortion because you are a minor and you are their responsibility. I'm not saying that it's right that they can, but it's the law.

lady_k
Decide what you want to do. If you want to give the baby up for adoption, talk to your parents and tell them how you feel about it. If you want the abortion, dont feel ashamed to go through with it, it's your body and you have the right to decide what to do with it.
You said you are already 3 months, if you are going to go through with an adoption, you need medical attention right away, you need prenatel vitamins and you need to take care of yourself. You also need to get with an adoption agency and start looking at possible couples. If you are getting an abortion, the sooner the better my dear. Dont wait any longer.

You have 3 choices, you can either get an abortion, put the baby up for adoption, or keep the baby. As mandyloo said, are you ready physically and emotionally to be a mother? Your family obviously does not want to help you take care of this baby and since you are only 15 without their help it would be very hard for you to provide a good life for the baby. Adoption is definitely an option but it will be something that is very hard. It takes a selfless person to give their baby up for adoption. You could have an open adoption (honestly though sometimes I think that might me harder). Abortion is something that you would have to live with the rest of your life but you're only 15. You have your whole life to live. This is your decision and you can't let your family make it for you, afterall they're not the ones who will have to live with your decision. Think about it and then think some more. Make sure that you make the decision for you and only you. Decide if you can see yourself as a mother at 15. Decide if you could raise a baby by yourself. Decide if you would be able to give your baby away after carrying it and nurturing it for 9 months. Decide if you can abort a fetus (yes a fetus for all you pro life people) and live with the knowledge that you did this.

What do you want? Don't wait though, your time is running out to get an abortion. And again as mandyloo said if you decide to carry the baby you need to go to a doctor.

Good luck

your family cant make you have an abortion no matter what your age is about a month ago I taught I was pregnant and it turned out I wasn't but the first thing that came to my mind was to get rid of it ( that was because my family are not really supportive of me and if you was going to bring a baby in to this world you need support from your family) if you dont want to keep it just give it up for adoption. I would only advise you to get ride of it only if you are a emotionally strong person if not its going to tear you up inside everyday wondering what if I had kept that baby you said your 3 month you dont have a long time to thing about think about this make the best decision for yourself not anyone else and pls let me know what you decide

No one can answer this question for you. It isnt like making a list of pros and cons and then seeing which list is longer... You're going to have to decide what is best for you and what you can live with...
Abortion, Adoption or Motherhood...
And dont let anyone influence you in any way. This is your life. They're not going to have to deal with anything, so it really doesnt concern any of them.

From conception, it's a Life - adoption to an established, Loving family is certainly an option - do what's best for your baby is the priority.

Pray about it honey.

Good Luck.

God gave you that baby for a reason.. it is you choice if you cay it full term, But I think that God wants you to help a couple maybe in your area that can't have a baby that has been waiting along time. There is a reason for everything that we do, we may not know what it is but there is a reason... I feel that abortion is wrong but again that is my opinion.. Pray about it hun and talk to the head of your church or someone not in you family. Good luck and keep us posted

My opinion would be keep it. Once that baby is born and everyday you get to look in that childs eyes and see what you created is the most wonderful feeling ever. If you abort this baby it will haunt you forever. Its something that will stick with you always and you'll regret it later in life.

 
It MUST end up as YOUR decision. You can probably check with various agencies or organizations in London that can help you make your decision.

Whether or not to have an abortion is a life-altering decision for both you and your baby. If you aren't really secure in a decision for abortion then maybe you should continue carrying it to term. Then, you can still decide whether to keep the baby or give it up for adoption.

The only thing YOU have to decide NOW is whether you want or could emotionally handle having an abortion. If you decide against an abortion, then you have six months to decide what YOU think will be best for you and the child.

Sixteen is young to have and care for a child but many girls find themselves in the same situation and are able to manage. It may not be easy, but more important than money is the love and attention that the child receives. Also, your family may come around and end up being much more supportive, loving and caring for the child.

Don't continue to cry about it. It happened and nothing can be done to change the fact that it happened. Now it is time to accept it and make intelligent decisions for the future.

 
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I think that you should give the baby a chance at life. I had my first baby at 17 and I kept him. He is my miracle. My husband and I now can not have children and we are wanting to adopt. I think you should look into adoption. It is a great way to give your baby the life you may not be able to provide.

It should be YOUR choice..not your parents choice. There are disadvantages to both-
Mandyloo listed a lot if good ones! Really good ones.
If you get an abortion, you're KILLING a baby. You'll have to live with that for the rest of your life.