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My Names MandyLoo
I'm 23 Years Old
I have a gorgeous son who is 4 months old.
I'm engaged to a wonderful man who has my heart.
I'm honest, i wont beat around the bush, and will give you just the facts.
I'm PRO-CHOICE and an atheist. I stand very firm in my beliefs on both of these also.
I've lived a great life and done things i shouldn't have, but it all lead me to where i am and i woudn't change any of it.
I can't pick a career to save my life.
I've worked in tattoo/piercing shops.
I've worked at strip clubs and bars.
I've worked at desk jobs.
I was a cake decorator for 3 years.
I want to do it all but i dont have the time.
I'd rather stay at home with my son.
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Dear badxxgurl, Okay I'm a little concerned with the adults here. You should have been brought to the hospital right away to have rape kits done, testing for AIDs and STDs. You should have been given the morning after pill and both of these guys shoul...
Dear iffy, ED-NOS explained: A person who severely restricts food intake but is not yet underweight by DSM-I've standards A female who meets all other criteria for anorexia but continues to have regular menstrual periods. A person who regularly ...
Dear melia429, There are utterly 100s of things to do. Skating, movies, dinner out, crafts, volunteer together, walks, bike riding etc. etc. I really enjoy doing crafts with my clients...you can do them seasonally like for Christmas you can do cards,...
Dear flaka244, I have been dying my hair since I was 14 and have used many different products. It is true that you should not do it more than every 3 months or you do increase your chances for a certain type of cancer. So look for a type that is gentl...
Dear immabeadadyy, This is a tough situation. First legally your parents are going to be responsible for the child till you turn 18 or move away from your parents house. I'm sure this is not something they will be looking forward to. Legally, she can ...
Dear xxaloneinlifexx, I'm sorry but there isn't much you can do...he is addicted and only he can go to rehab and dry out. But you can get the information for him. Go to AA and ask for some information for your father. They will also let you know if th...
Dear genericusername, Yes, we are now discovering an gene that starves the brain of Seritonin...this gene is genetic. For many years we thought it was only environmental meaning that relatives are raised in a depressed surrounding and pick up the trai...
Dear five_minutes_to_midnite, You must see a doctor...your body tells you when something is wrong and it's telling you. If you don't eat on a regular schedule you can cause yourself discomfort. This is why some people eat "by the clock" meaning at re...
Dear partyontom, You stated you are 16 but your profile says 21? You also said you had a lot of sexual experience by your other questions and answers yet you don't know little about your own body and menstruation? What would you like us to believe? ...
Dear beans, yes, we occupy only a small section of the universe. There are many other solar systems such as ours with many planets. As earthlings we have adapted to the earth's anmosphere...why would that be any different in other solar systems and on...
Dear luv18, Of course you never spank a child...especially when they older children. 10 and 12 are tough ages, they are just getting a sense of Independence. The key is that they feel they have some control over what is happening to them. Children who...
Dear achillesthemighty, When in your teens age is a big factor. As you get older this will not pose so much of a problem. As for teens even a year or two can make a huge difference. At 18 a teen starts wanting more Independence, will bar hop, be on lo...
Dear monsta616, Everyone is different and you cannot generalize when it comes to stamina. Some males have a problem with being too quick and they learn methods so that they can control this. Women are typically known for taking longer but they also c...
Dear overit, You don't respond. This is a typical scenario of someone trying to perhaps groom you. Meaning they will get to know you and then try to find out where you live etc. Simple slip ups like where you go to school, sports events you are going ...
Dear red_rose_mafia, First of all self harm is not stopping you from suicide?? Not sure how this fallacy got started but it is far from the truth. The feelings around self abuse are much different than around suicide. Therefore are treated differently...
Dear elone, High self-esteem can be as bad as low self-esteem. This is an area in life that really needs balance. A person with low shows signs of depression, and may choose the victim role many of the times. A person with high can feel superior and c...
Dear preppyinpink, I really hope so. Since we are made of energy and energy does not die we shall return. I've been around long enough to hear many different scenarios on this topic. So I choose to think that we will return in part as another persons...
Dear knowitall8, There are several reason why we have homeless people. Some choose to be on the streets claiming that they would be ripped off in the shelters. Others have mental disabilities that do not allow them to hold down a regular job. They usu...
Not just in college but I experienced it in the high schools as well. My son is tall and a good volleyball player. They lied to me saying he was doing great in his studies so I would keep him on the team. I later found out he wasn't doing all that good...
No way, could never leave unopened mail in my in-box. My spam of course goes to my spam file so all emails I receive in my in-box are read and are important to me. Sue
Dear beckyandherbabyy, You must tell your mother right away...you do have options and you need to address them now before it's too late. Lets be real here...your mother isn't going to kill you she will help you make the right decisions for you and you...
Dear alwaysandforever, Baking Soda is an abrasive. This will eventually wear away the enamel off the teeth causeing the opposite effect you want. This is an old wives tale. Sue...good luck
Dear kayla17, If you are not the pill the average time of a period can be 4-10 days for teens. Speak with your doctor there are birthcontrol that will allow you a period only one or two times a year. Sue...good luck
Dear rizzosmith, Daily smokers are usually addicts...the catch phrase in your question was I don't plan on smoking again (maybe ever) it's MAYBE so you know you have trouble...you need some help to stop. Go to narcotics anonymous there they will give ...
Dear balletpoints, It is important to know the dangers of diet pills and diet pill side effects. One of the dangers of diet pills that inhibit the absorption of fats are gastrointestinal side effects, such as, oily spotting, flatus with discharge, ...
Dear ohhmigod, Go see your doctor...some girls have endometriosis that are causing cramps. The rest of us are told just suffer, go on the pill or have a child. Well none of this worked for me. Being very active before your period tends to help a lot a...
Dear stellaapplemoor, By the evening my hair is greasy...this has been my dilemma for over 40 years. It is a hormone and a genetic thing. In the long run you will have healthy hair late into life because of this. But right now I understand what a burd...
Dear glamorous101, Ah yes, this mistake is made over and over. The beauty is not outward but within. It matters not what you are wearing but how confident, personable and genuine you are. People can see through the fancy, sexy clothes and they mean no...
Dear norelle, I understand very little about your culture but I have met several people from Hong Kong and they tell me it's extremely important to honour mother and father. So since you are only there on breaks and probably won't be there much longe...
Dear resha_may, Men are very visual so anything that reminds them of sex is something they like to see. Seeing panties can send them on a mind tangent beginning with what they imagine were in the panties. Sue...good luck
Dear dabearslover101, Yes, very easily. In fact this is how STDs are spread the quickest is with same sex relationships especially females. It seems that like you they don't think that the safety concerns concern them??? Female condoms are available ...
Dear skittles, Your parents have a right to be worries...if a 17 year old male is interested in a 13 year old then he has some problems. He would be considered very immature and perhaps only looking for sex from someone so young. In your state it is p...
Dear jumpback987, You stated you were taking testosterone...so I will assume your body isn't producing enough. So saying that I will also assume that your sexual desires were not great prior. So now you've turned the table and how is this fair? She c...
Dear stephanief987, The worst is that you guys split up over this...why was it so easy for him just to walk out on you? This is not a good sign sorry to say. This type of behaviour would not end here and it is likely he would walk out again when he di...
Dear 88jbhunt, Sorry that you received these answers. This is a difficult situation for some. Usually an operation is given early to release the testicles. However, if they have not dropped you are still able to have children and have a healthy life s...
Dear moh, Drinking 10 cups of anything is bad for you. Your daily limit should be 8 cups and that is adding in the total water you have also gotten out of food. If it has caffeine you are doing a lot more harm than you realize. Sue...good luck
LOL...mine is run by batteries. It's a cheap blue plastic thing. But I don't use pencil much here at home mostly ink. Like filletofspam I prefer a fountain pen...but I can't seem to find a good fountain pen anymore. Sue
Dear kcaz67, It's very rare to meet someone and love them right away. This would be lust and not a basis for a immediate commitment. Love takes time to nurture, grow and mature. This is why when we get older we don't do so much casual dating but we st...
Dear believesnsaints, of course not. We cannot an should not judge anyone by what they wear. Sue...good luck
Dear blondi, Yes, I would say so. I'm not saying you are immature at all but he would be to be dating a 14 year old when he is 17. It doesn't sound like a lot only 3 years but in those 3 years a person does a lot of growing and maturing. So as far as...
Dear virgintaker16, She isn't okay...there is no way any one can be raped twice and be okay??? She perhaps said that so she wouldn't have to go and face her problems. She will need counselling for a very long time. She is only 16 and has been through ...
Dear usnavysealboy_911, They aren't as much as you think. From the ages 11-17 especially with males they will boast and gloat that they have had sex. This is partly to do with peer pressure. When in reality they haven't. Stats show that only 1/2 who s...
Dear biotchplease, This is where your maturity has to come to play. You love him and I'm sure he is a sweat guy but now is the time to ask yourself is this what you will have to put up with for years to come??? You also are being what we call an enabl...
Dear virgintaker16, You all need to take a step back...all of you. This girl needs some counselling ASAP. She's been raped twice and you have fears it may happen again. She may be suffering from victim syndrome and is surely suffering from low self-...
Dear dicker, Yes, see a doctor if you feel your breath is still bad. Your wife says it doesn't smell...would she lie to you? What would her motive be? So perhaps your problem is with your nose and not your breath? Maybe you're looking in the wrong dir...
Dear hotchic1, The average persons hair grows about 6 inches a year. Your genetics plays a big part in how fast or slow it grows. You cannot take anything that will make it grow faster but you can do things to make it grow healthier such as a good die...
Dear dylansoul12, Of course you know this is all wrong or you wouldn't have written your question. Since you say you know about POT then you know the dangers it posses to one's health. It has more cancer causing agents then cigarettes, it can alter th...
Dear alecw, I would say that she may be in a relationship. You did not mention if she was or even if you knew if she was? Some cultures are very private about their personal life. She could be in an unsatisfying relationship but may feel she is stuck,...
Dear spinxey, You must not stop counselling and you must find a place she can go that handles anorexia. This is not just a phase that will pass. Anorexia is a psychological disorder and needs to be treated as such. The food is secondary but the lack o...
Dear cre8tivenfun09, Take a step back...you have gotten yourself in a bad situation. You have got yourself convinced that your ex loves you and he Will take you back. From what I have been reading in you other questions you are obsessed with him. He s...