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My Names MandyLoo
I'm 23 Years Old
I have a gorgeous son who is 4 months old.
I'm engaged to a wonderful man who has my heart.
I'm honest, i wont beat around the bush, and will give you just the facts.
I'm PRO-CHOICE and an atheist. I stand very firm in my beliefs on both of these also.
I've lived a great life and done things i shouldn't have, but it all lead me to where i am and i woudn't change any of it.
I can't pick a career to save my life.
I've worked in tattoo/piercing shops.
I've worked at strip clubs and bars.
I've worked at desk jobs.
I was a cake decorator for 3 years.
I want to do it all but i dont have the time.
I'd rather stay at home with my son.
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Dear known, If you are referring to bowel movements...then you should see your doctor. If your stool is very loose or if you are constipated there could be a problem. Some people normally have bowel movements twice a day. There are several conditions ...
Dear lean, If this is the married man you spoke of...then I suggest you stop here and stop all contact with him till he has the guts to end his previous relationship. If this is someone else you are referring to then...why would anyone pretend they ar...
Dear twilightsky, Well you don't have a completely honest relationship with great communication or this would be something you both are working on in counselling. I am going to say that there are other areas in the relationship that are faltering. Man...
Dear nin4uonly, Well you don't need your parents permission to seek out counselling or a doctor. You are 21 and need to be proactive in your own life. You know you have a problem and it's time you take care of it. Pick up the phone and call your healt...
Dear xxthatgirl, There is lots you can do from babysitting to delivering papers. It's normal for you to be jealous of your brother. What isn't normal that your brother who lives at home can afford all this stuff. If he has so much money he should be l...
Dear mommy39, I tried to read through your question but it was a tad confusing to say the least. I can only guess you are very involved with your daughters life. I'm not saying that is a bad thing but getting involved with one of their father's isn't...
Dear xfashionfreakx, I met my hubby on the internet. We met on a email pen-pal site. He wrote to me and we kept in contact for an entire year before we met. We got to know each other very well first before meeting. When we did meet we were like old fr...
Dear sweetstuff198, What do you do? You move on, that's what you do. He went to the dance with someone else...it is over. You don't need him for anything? As you get older you will realize this would be a dysfunctional relationship and considered abus...
Dear inkos1delirium, I'm sure if you've been tested that they also told you that you should abstain from sex until your fertile days. This insure and good sperm production. Other than that there are not real methods. There are many old wives tales and...
Dear virgintaker16, Surgery is not recommended unless your penis is less than 3 inches hard. So if you are any bigger than this you are not a good candidate. There have been deaths associated with this surgery and many complications here are just a fe...
Dear imyselfandme, There is a black head remover that most drugstores sell ( a little tool with metal loop ends). It works really well...they also sell a daily face wash called OXY scrub. I found using these both have helped many. Sue...good luck
Dear crazysoutherngirl9992, Have some fun...do some reading on colour therapy. Each colour will effect people in different ways. If you are a hyper type person stay away from the reds, oranges and even yellows. If you need to be calm you go to the blu...
Dear sammib, When you see the worker...just relax and remember she/he will not be surprise about anything you say so you can tell them anything. The important thing is to be honest. You are very lucky to have one coming to see you; some areas don't ge...
Dear rosieposy1, Yes, it is possible and you may think that there is more blood but it might be because you are not using a pad that will absorb in a different way. Sue...good luck
Dear abercrombiejj, Yes...but they can take care of it themselves. Sue...good luck
Dear danipower15, There should be no problem with her getting close with her tutor unless it starts to interfere with how she listens to the tutor's instructions. It can be very hard when you becomes friends with someone for them to tell you what to d...
Dear thegurl05, Well from you other question...you want to get pregnant with this guy...no wonder you mother is upset...I'd be very upset to. You are too young to get pregnant and with someone you have only been with for 3 months? She is not being unr...
Dear lildiva, If you are dating a guy...how did you get to know the other guys so well? You must have been spending a lot of time with him to feel you would be a better couple. So perhaps you are not as attached to your boyfriend as you thought? It is...
Dear icarussan, Children have a lot of rights...you use them everyday. The right to a good education, the right for shelter, food etc. The human brain develops for a long period of time...it is not until you are in your mid twenties that you develop ...
Dear monica1, Never make meals power stuggles...this will cause him to hate foods and could even develop an eating disorder because of it. Never use deserts as a reward for eating; this sends a bad message. He loves the "little trees" you are lucky......
Dear badasschictatts22, Because THC is stored and accumulates in body fat it is hard to predict the time it takes to leave the body. If you are a daily smoker of course it is much longer. anywhere from 2-40 days is the rule of thumb. So called flushin...
Dear stoned247, Well like you've already heard you are never going to pass a drug test if you continue to ingest THC. THC is stored in body fat...the so called methods of flushing do not work and some have been proven to be even very harmful to body o...
Dear tweetie_lover, Okay...everyone should know this...precum "the liquid before ejaculation is full of sperm" Sperm can live under nails, on clothing etc. for a long time even exposed to air. The chances of getting pregnant is slim but it does happen...
Dear wildcat66, Sounds like you need to stop dating for a while. Try to figure out why you were not successful in these relationships. Of course you will feel something for Emily, she was your girlfriend. As you get older you will realize that being a...
Dear fau, Because everyone is different it is hard to say if you will get more or not. This is a common occurrence and you need to relax and accept it. It doesn't change who you are. You may be paranoid but please if you still feel there is a problem ...
Yes, I think your age difference is a problem. It is not your maturity but his that comes into question. Although you are old enough to accompany him to many places you still may be uncomfortable fitting in with his peer group. He may have chosen a you...
Dear katie_ere, Once trust is broken it is very difficult to rebuild. This goes for anyone in any type of relationship. Don't expect her trust for a long time. How long? That will depend on your attitude and her level of tolerance. You must sit with h...
Dear lean, Yes, of course it does. Our society typically sees males pairing up with females who are a few years younger to compensate for the maturity differences. When we start seeing a huge gap in age, especially with the younger set...lets say a 21...
Dear thedudebrokemyheart, Wilhelm Wundt in 1874 proposed that all emotions could essentially be described along three dimensions – pleasantness vs. unpleasantness, excitement vs. depression, and tension vs. relaxation. We have used these categories fo...
Dear muskris1941, You have already set yourself up for failure...you are comparing this relationship to your others and you are trying to compete with not one but 2 ex wives. You are no way ready for this type of relationship. I suggest you take some ...
Dear crazyygal, I'm going to say yes, only because I think this is a trip of a life time and if things do progress with him that would be a bonus. If you are able to put the work in, get the money I think above all the trip alone...and you may not thi...
Dear ab1g1rl, It's time to realize there is nothing you can do...this was your mother's decision and maybe your mother's mistake. It sounds that there never was much communication with your mother. She seems very distant with all of you. For your moth...
Dear kneck1, The rule of thumb is two weeks for smoking...of course this varies with people. Addictions are created by a need. To keep it simple the brain likes the stimulation of what you are doing. It eventually craves it and the brain becomes alter...
Dear cheergirlx3, It is not your responsibility to do anything. I understand you want to help them both but this is between them. You need to stay out of it totally. If either one asks what you know you say nothing. Let them handle it. When they have ...
Dear mb789, You must see a counsellor at school. They can help you with this. They will teach you how to get along better with people and to communicate better. You must take some responsibility in this as well and always remember we can't change othe...
Dear vampirelover, Have your friend go to children's services. There she can discuss her options. Talk this over with your mother as well, she may be able to help. No one should suffer from verbal abuse. Perhaps she would be better off somewhere else....
Dear hottychick888, Simple...bring the girl to speak with his dad. She can clear the whole thing up. Sue...good luck
Dear kodacole09, You need to speak with a school counsellor or go to your doctor for information on counselling...perhaps they can get you into regular counselling. You are unable to get along with anyone around you. You feel victimized and you feel t...
Dear cathyincayman, Your daughter now sucks her thumb out of habit. She started for soothing and then as she got older kept the habit. If we examine habits we will see you must replace a bad habit with a good one. This will take some time but you must...
Dear dontyouknowiloveyoutoo, I also think you may be reading more into this than there is. You don't know if he is married so stay away. This is valuable information and you must know this before you do anything. He is your boss and if he was smart he...
Dear gabbydoctor, I do believe you could be charged with trespassing since you had no intent to visit the person. Sue...good luck
Dear abbielynn, Yes it can be normal. You must make an appointment with your doctor and discuss this with him. There could be many, many reasons why it hasn't returned. Sue...good luck
Dear lostsoul21, I have been to one and couldn't walk for a few days after. My brother in law who is a doctor has treated several who have had permanent damage to back and necks form their so called treatments. I've hear many good things about it as ...
Dear caw The high-risk game is known variously as "blackout," "funky chicken," "space monkey," "flatliner," "tingling," and "suffocation roulette." Middle-school kids as young as 10 try it. Some in groups, some alone. Older teens may do it to incre...
Dear barnyboy2004, There isn't a lot you can do to hide the smell. The alcohol sits in the stomach and until it is digested...that can take many hours you will have that yucky alcohol smell. Sue...good luck
Dear sophie_lea07, At your age your hormones are still adjusting. If you are finding you are having problems with hyper activity, unable to focus and not being able to hold yourself back from gambling etc. then you have a problem. The danger is you ma...
Dear jessa902, Yes, you need to tell. As you get older you will find that this will get in the way of having normal relationships; not with just guys but in general. Rape victims always must get counselling to help deal with this violation. Perhaps yo...
Dear lean, You have used this man enough to hide behind. You are afraid fo something perhaps a commitment or relationships. I suggest you get some counselling to help you gain some self-esteem so that you can find someone who you can be with. You have...
Dear lovinlifekinda, If you truly love this guy...then step back. Chances are you will not be dating him anytime soon. He has a girlfriend and that means you must back off. Accept you may never date him and find someone you can date. Sue...good luck
Dear lostsoul21, These are call vagina farts LOL. That is one of those embarrassing moments that you should get a good laugh from and be comfortable with. Learn to laugh at this because there are going to be many more things that should make you laugh...